What advice should I give this friend?

[woopsidaisy]

Hi. Someone I know recently confided in me that she had snogged a guy on a night out. She is married with children. She married young,has worked hard and got a great job.But with work,a DH and children feels she is splitting herself into a million pieces...feels she is having a bit of a mid-life crisis. From the outside she apears to have it all.She is getting counselling. DH does not know about the snog,and they aren't having "problems" as such. I am hoping to meet up with her soon and want to give her some sound advise...but not sure what to say!
What would you say to her?
I have to nip out for a while so will check back later. Thanks.

When you say 'snog' do you mean a drink induced kiss and cuddle in a crowded place?

If so, I don't think it's worth worrying about. It was probably a once-off and she would prefer to forget about it.

Yes,it was a drunken fumble...ok then. Maybe I am over-reacting. Thanks.

If it was someone she won't see again then I think she just needs time to get her head round it and shouldn't say anything to her DH.

When I was with my ex I had three separate drunken fumbles with the same man over the space of a year. The first time I was appalled with myself but I kept going back and I realised that there was something very wrong with my relationship. Nothing 'serious' ever happened with this guy and we only ever saw eachother through a mutual friend so nothing ever would have, but it made me take stock and sort out my life.

Maybe talk to her about how she feels about her marriage and family and how all that can be improved, if it can be. Ultimately though only she will know what is pushing her into this kind of behaviour and if she can put it behind her.

I think she feels she "missed out" on dating and having relationships etc when she was younger. It was the fact that she was a bit "it's only a bit of fun" about it that worried me. Not sure her DH would see it this way,and would hate to see her go down a path that could destroy her life.
I know that sounds a bit dramatic,but I realy think she IS having a mid-life crisis,and would hate to see her get hurt or make a massive mistake.
But maybe I am being a bit dramatic!