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How did you meet your DH/DP

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TooBlessed · 21/11/2010 19:57

my DD is sick and my heart is really sore,however one thing always puts me in a good mood,and thats when i think about how i met DH,what can i say?i am a romantic and having parents who have been married for almost 40years and are genuinely in love i can't help myself,,so ladies ,wow me with your stories,good or bad,i need some cheering up,,did you think he was the one?where?how long before he popped the question or before you became partners?

oh my story.Dh and his mom,twin brother were in Southern Africa for a holiday,DH's twin walked into my office one lovely morning to make a booking with me for a shark and whale watching trip,i booked him and he left,the next day he came back,asked me to go and have a drink with him,i refused but we kept chatting for about an hour,it was almost close to closing time,we did our goodbyes and he left.

About 5minutes later he came back, i did not recognise him coz he brought twin brother with him,who is now my DH,the first time i saw DH i thought 'he is beautiful',they are identical twins by the way,anyway he asked again if we would go for a drink and this time i said yes,,the rest as they say is history,,and i am glad i ended up with my DH,,to cut a long story short,i met twin one,who asked me out and i said yes after meeting twin two,who ended up marrying me and bringing me all the way from Africa to Europe,,and i couldn't be happier,,,there is more but i won't bore you,,,

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RuthChan · 21/11/2010 20:40

Interesting question!

I went to Japan to teach English for a private company over there. I had no interest in Japanese men, but thought it would be interesting to live there for a year or two.
I had been there for one year when a new teacher joined the school. We had instant rapport and there was definitely something between us, but I was suspicious that he might be flirting with all the ladies or already have a girlfriend.
As it turned out he wasn't and didn't. We started dating after about 6 weeks and had been together for 3 years when he popped the question.
We've now been married for 6 years and I still look at my own life in surprise at how it turned out!

amummyinwaiting · 21/11/2010 20:44

Hi tooblessed that is a lovely story. I'm sorry that you are having a rough time of it and glad that you can think about your nice story and it cheers you up.
Here is mine...
The summer before University I worked in a toy shop. A lady on there kept going on about how I would be perfect for her stepson and that we would eventually marry. First time I met him I thought he was short with a big bum :)
She kept harrassing so I agreed to go out with her, her dh and her stepson.
We went out a few times but only as friends as I dindnt want to start anything that wouldnt be possible before I went to uni.
Night before left realised I loved him, we were engaged within 3 months and have been together for 10 years. He is the one and only person I have ever loved and writing this has made me feel all warm. Going to go and give him a hug. :)

JamieLeeCurtis · 21/11/2010 20:47

I met him on our first day at University. He walked into a full common room and just looked really handsome, at ease and kind. He really stood out to me, and it was sort of love at first sight.

We became friends and in the 3rd year we started going out. 20 years ago

JamieLeeCurtis · 21/11/2010 20:48

Tooblessed - I also think about our early days when I am feeling down, or when I can't get to sleep

nameymcnamechange · 21/11/2010 20:49

He was my best friend's boyfriend. I met him at her post-grad student house when we were about 22/23. I thought he seemed ok, don't remember being knocked-out by him or anything.

ethelina · 21/11/2010 21:01

His best friend is married to my best friend. He apparently badgered his friend to say something to my friend who could say something to me!! Took 3 months for his friend to remember to drop the hint, I knew nothing about it for another 6 weeks. He asked me out eventually. I didn't know at the time he dumped his ex on the same day - she was in hospital recovering from appendicectomy Blush he told me the next day, saying it was on the cards for a long time. 10 years later we are happily
married with a family. Smile

EmmaCB1 · 21/11/2010 21:11

Ah, this is nice on a sunday eve!

I went on holiday to Gumbet, Turkey with my best friend in 1996. The woman in the travel agent suggested 2 different hotels, and we couldn't pick between them, so she mentioned 2 funny guys had booked one of them just the week before and why not go for that one. So we did!

We worked out who they were on the coach from the airport to the resort, got chatting and then spent most of the holiday together Wink. They were both called Andy, and we've been together ever since - my friend and 'her Andy' and now engaged, with a 6 month old DS. 'My Andy' and I have been married for three years and have two DSs, aged 4 and 8 months. Holiday romances, hey!

RuthChan · 21/11/2010 21:22

EmmaCB1

That is so sweet!
Especially as both you and your friend have each ended up with one of the Andys!

Hulababy · 21/11/2010 21:25

Met dh at school when we were 16y. Been together 20 years, married for 12y and have an 8yo dd.

Malificence · 21/11/2010 21:32

DH and I met when we were 13 at school, we didn't socialise until we met again at college in 1983. I stole him from his girlfriend at the time Blush .

We married in 1985.

His first memory of me is of touching my boobs (accidentally) when helping me over a gym-horse in PE. It obviously had a big impact on him. Grin

TooBlessed · 21/11/2010 21:34

Emmaoh,,so sweet,give me a holiday romance anytime,
Ethelinagood for you and your friend with your lovely Andies,,such a nice story
jamielee wow 20yrs,i hope to be married that long as well
amummy :o at the big bum,,so nice his bum was a winner after all..
Ruth doesn't it feel good to know that the guy you fancy fancies you as well,even better when he is single?

you see ladies,you have just made me smile,now i will go to sleep and cuddle my blessing of a DH and thank God for him and our DD,,thank you for your responses...

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mamalovesmojitos · 21/11/2010 21:34

ah lovely stories. i smiled at the two andys! Smile. i'm happily single at the mo, but also hope that some day when things are a bit calmer that i'll find my own lovely dp.

bubbleymummy · 21/11/2010 21:36

Lovely idea for a thread :) met DH at university, we got randomly assigned together for a group project. Became good friends over too many late nights working on said project and ended up together after a slightly tipsy kiss after handing the project in :) got engaged on our 1 year anniversary and married 6 months after that. (2 weeks after finishing our degree) Married for 6 years now with two gorgeous DSs.

BikeRunSki · 21/11/2010 21:37

I taught him! He was an MSc student, I was a PhD student. I was v busy trying to write up my thesis and hated teaching, only did it for the money. A mutual friend introduced us a few days before the start of term. He persued me - cups of tea, chats, last orders. Got the guys I shared a flat with on side. I arranged my birthday night out on his mobile - was the only person I knew with one at the time (was mid 90s0 and thought I'd better ask him along too....

TooBlessed · 21/11/2010 21:37

Malificenceage 13 , touching yourself and all,you sure made a very unforgettable impact,, i have a big :o

Hula me very impressed

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TooBlessed · 21/11/2010 21:38

sending good vibes to you mama

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TooBlessed · 21/11/2010 21:41

oh,,did i mention that i arrived in Europe on christmas day and DH got on his knees on new years,?

,when the clock hit 12,,,aahhhh,the good times,,and silly me thought he was too drunk to know what he was doing ,so i said no,,ask me when you are sobber,he did the next morning ,i still said no,then three months later i could not resist the stone,,it was a yes,,3 times being a charm,,all the time i said no i was dying inside coz i thought he was gonna ask someone else,,,NO...

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TooBlessed · 21/11/2010 21:42

*bike,how nice of him,,

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pink4ever · 21/11/2010 21:44

Met my dh at a party his flatmate threw.He had just finished his finals and was in bed fast asleep and I was the one sent in to wake him up to join the party!. Wouldnt say it was love at first sight(more like lust!) met him on a fri and didnt go home til the monBlush.
Still together 16 years later,married with kids!.

mamalovesmojitos · 21/11/2010 21:45

aw thanks twoblessed! that's lovely of you Smile. i'm a lucky girl really with my dd, family and friends so can't complain. a nice man would just be the icing on the cake.

mamalovesmojitos · 21/11/2010 21:48

Hope your dd feels better soon tooblessed.

lostinwales · 21/11/2010 21:48

Saw him out of my bedroom window in the hospital accommodation the first day of my training. His beautiful red hair was glowing in the Autumn sun and the next day, when he crossed to go to work again, I grabbed my flatmate and said, 'that's the man I told you about, I want that one'. Poor man never stood a chance. 18 years together 12 married and three glorious DS' with red hair that glows in the sun just like their daddys, I still can't believe it!

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MeowyChristmasEveryone · 21/11/2010 22:03

Known DH since I was 11, starting sec. school.

Same English class EVERY YEAR, and for the 4th and 5th year, he sat in front of me.

After GCSEs he went to the Tech College, and I went to VI Form to do A levels, but kinda kept in touch because not many people from school went to his college. Turns out it was shit, so by the time I started Upper VI, he was enrolled in Lower VI. He fell right back into our social group, and by Christmas, I realised that I really quite liked him. I told my mate this just after Christmas, but I don't think she told anyone else, but he finally took it upon himself to ask me out at the Feb half term, but I thought he meant that the whole of our group were meeting up, and he was just co-ordinating.

I was a bit Shock when I walked into the pub, and there he was with TWO of our male mutual friends. Anyhow, we stayed for a few drinks, and then DH invited us back to his mum and dad's for free drinks rather than paying pub prices.

Friend number 1 decided to depart at this point, saying that he was going to go to bed in order to spend some time revising the following day. Friend number 2 kindly accepted the invitation, as did I, and we went for homemade Bailey's Grin

A Clint Eastwood WWII film was on at his mum and dad's and we watched that till about 2345hrs, at which point Friend number 2 decided he had provided enough support and also went home.

It was then me, him, and his mum and dad. I find out from Dad that my mum went to the same school as them, but she was 5 yrs younger than DH's mum and 6 younger than his dad. It turns out on later questioning of my mum that she used to watch my now MiL and all her 5th former friends, who were all tall, elegant, gorgeous, etc, etc (This is 1964/65 ish, btw) and she was a little 1st former, too scared to "personalise" her school uniform in any way -YKWIM!!

So, the film, and the history lesson finishes, I say good night and DH walks me the 1/2 mile or so back to my parents' house. When we get there, we lurk in the back garden for a bit, neither of us not knowing what to say, but not wanting it to be "good night" just yet. After about 5 minutes of clawing at the air, thinking of things to say, he says that he has quite liked me since about Christmas, and would I consider going out with him. I say yes, I would, and we have a quick snog, and when he calls round the next day (a Sunday), we actually spent about 8 hours with our mouths locked together.

My mum and dad had gone to visit my dad's parents a 2 hour drive away, so we were alone all day. We saw each other every single day for the next 6 1/2 months, until I went to uni, while he finished VI Form, and just after I started my second year of uni, he joined the RAF. I did a total of 4 years at uni, for teacher training, and then we got married, which is now 12 1/2 years ago, and in about 18 months time, we'll have been partners in crime for more than half our lifetimes.

His mum and dad are still happily married, celebrated their 40th WA last month, and I think they are pleased that one of their 3 offspring is settled. Their 2 daughters still live with them, and so does the 4 year old son of the older daughter. I don't think it's what they were imagining for their 6th decades!!

My dad remarried after my mum passed away 13 days after we got married, and my step mum is actually really nice - shame about her grown up kids, but you can't have everything!!!

FreudianSlimmery · 21/11/2010 22:10

I had a breakdown in my teens due to abuse in childhood. Left school and eventually ended up in a psychiatric unit due to self harm.

There was one nurse guy who I liked a lot. Long story short, 8 years later we are married with 2 DCs :)

I have to admit it wasn't love at first sight for me, but it was for him - his first thought was "Uho, I'm in trouble".

Bit of flirting and unbelievable chemistry... And here we are :)