i am a single mum to ds 5 yrs old and have recently met someone who i think i could have a future with. i have tried all ways of 'putting him off' i.e. he knows about ds and is not bothered one bit, he knows ds father is taking me through court atm, still not bothered.
we've talked for hours about what sort of relationship we both want and we match perfectly, i cannot find a single thing wrong with him. my only problem is how and when to introduce ds to him, he came round last night when ds was in bed but ds was not asleep and saw him, i went to sort ds out and he asked who the man was, i just said a friend. ds knows i have lots of male friends (who are just friends) and he loves them all to bits. i dont like the idea of lying to ds but dont want to see him get hurt.
my 'friend' has had an ex who had a child so he knows what to expect from a long term relationship involving a child but i dont iykwim, this will be my first serious relationship since i split with ds father whom we do not have any contact with other than through court.
i dont have the money to get a babysitter that often so for the relationship to move on ds is going to have to meet him. i was thinking of taking ds to a farm nearby and was thinking of asking my new partner to come along as well, so we won't be on ds territory and it can be more informal. does anyone think i am right in doing this or am i acting too soon?
Thanks
p.s. sorry this is a bit long