A bit of a wobble

[manchildmum]

Well where to start, bit of a shock I got 5 mins to myself tonight, I let my hair down and had a glass of vino!! I have also arranged a weekend by myself when this is all over my dad will have the kids!

It's all starting to come together, but had a wobble today....

"D" h says having sex with me ever was a mistake, I will never have sex with another man unless I pay him. He knows I want to seperate and said "That's why we are seperating you never listen" but then says "I am staying with you for the kids and the money, I can't afford to divorce you."

Oh, I repulse him, he has never hated someone so much, especially after I told my family what is going on, we have nothing special between us anymore, nothing is private. I can be a council estate single mum, take his money, with my saggy tummy etc.

I'm not ugly I promise, I'm actually quite good looking! My body is a bit bashed about having a few kids with traumatic births etc but!?!?

In the very distant future men see past this surely, why be so horrible . I know it's part of the control that I am a useless fuck but it's hard, glad I will be out soon.

he sounds like a prize prick. chin up love, you're doing the right thing

He sounds like a cock, and you can do so much better.

Thanks I know, must be strong and all that ..........and breathe!

Future men will, of course (if they're worth having) see past saggy tummies, droopy boobs, stretch marks and all the rest of it. Real Men know what childbirth does, and the soppier of them will see them as well-earned battle-scars, and praise you for them. Only complete tosspots expect Barbie dolls.

If having sex with you was "a mistake", how often did he make that particular error?

You're having a wobble, and that's all it is; you know you're worth more than being stuck with controlling scum like him.

I know I am worth more, I did have a little chuckle in my head though when I thought "Ha not that much of a mistake considering you have been shagging me for years"

But I have more repsect than that to say it out loud to him!

Bugger respecting him; but so long as you do know... and well done on the chuckle. :)

Well, put it this way, if you do end up paying a man for sex, you are guaranteed a good time. And he won't wipe his cock on your nightie afterwards.

A (kind of) enjoyable break-up thread!

Well done manchildmum.

I normally say 'Good luck' but I don't think you need it, because you're doing great.

Oh, and what OldLady, Custardo and Gay40 said.

And he won't wipe his cock on your nightie afterwards

My body was savaged by my DS (stretchmarks that look like a shark attack and boobs that look like snooker balls in an old sock) and I have had some very exciting relationships in the 8 years since having him. The most recent with a man who said he loved my body (and all it's flaws) because it showed that I was a real woman.

Funny how your H felt the need to repeat such a terrible mistake. People say some bloody damaging things sometimes - a great friend of mine once told me that often the thing that people criticise the most in us are the things that they hate the most about themselves. Just bear that in mind when he is spouting rubbish in future.

Actually, having seen some of the men who offer themselves as escorts for women, (I mean on websites! Not IRL!) I wouldn't count on them not wiping their cocks on the curtains... there are some real losers out there who think They're Worth It!

I wouldn't give them (or your ex) the scum off the top of my jam.

What an absolute dick.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Stay strong.

Actually him saying that you just proves that he knows you could easily get another man, so he is sowing the seeds in your head that you're minger with the hope that you will feel too down on yourself to seek another relationship.