Just can't handle physical affection

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I've only slept with my husband once in the last year. When he tries to be affectionate, I just can't reciprocate and I just don't know what to do about it. We now sleep in different rooms and if he tries to initiate anything I block it.

I can't help worrying that if I don't do something about it soon, he'll bugger off and find someone who will.

I just have no libido at all. Well, thats not true, I can 'see to myself' IYKWIM but not him. TBH its been like this for around 4 years. Its not just sex with him, but I don't particularly like hugs and touchy feely stuff with anyone.

I did get libido back for a while when I was on high doses of prozac, which I was on for bulimia, but I've stopped that treatment and now, bye bye libido.

I'm most definitely not depressed - have done questionnaires and seen the doctor, so what the hell is it??

I love him, but actually find him touching me really, really creepy.

Is it a trust thing, do you think? You say you don't like hugs from anyone. Maybe you just are a non-tactile person, but maybe something's set you off? Is your husband paying the price for something unpleasant (not necessarily sexual) in your past? A case for therapy, perhaps?

Thats the strange thing. There's absolutely nothing in my past thats even remotely bad at all to do ith sex or touching and I used to have an active libido with me wanting it more than him, to the extent that he used to worry that I'd start getting bored of him.

I had very good therapy to do with the eating disorder, but the lack of sex drive has remained. I'm beginning to wonder if its a physical thing.

It might be worth seeing the GP and getting tested for low testosterone levels.