how often do you and dh/p go out or do something together

[hatwoman]

without other people?

very very rare for me and dh. we go out together with friends, and we go out without each other with friends. and we have hobbies we do separately.

we both work from home 3 days a week and so ocassionally walk the dog together, we normally have a mid-morning chat when one of us makes a cup of tea, and we, erm, play table football a couple of times a day. but we NEVER go out together. is that very bad? what does everyone else do

Lots.

Last Friday and Saturday we went to two gigs and on Sunday we went to the pictures.

We haven't been out this week because I was working most nights and went out with my mates last night.

Probably go for a drink cross the road tomorrow night because I don't want to go out tonight (working tomorrow and taking a group up Scarfell Pike so want to be alert)

We go away without the kids about 5 weekends a year.

Saying that we do a lot with the kids as well so life gets hectic!

Quite a lot. We are very lucky with babysitters though which I would guess is the problem for those of you who say never. Probably once a month we do dinner or a comedy thing or whatever. We try to do a weekend away twice a year which is easy enough as my Mum is always chomping at the bit to have the kiddies for a weekend :)

We spend our whole evenings together every night (unless one of us is out) from 8 till 11 and that is the most important time I think. We don't play on the PC or do housework during this time. We always eat together and then cuddle up and watch tv and chat then go to bed together. I think if you have a lot of time like this the going out isn't necessary - but it is nice

Every weekend.
However...not since DD was born 9 months ago!

After successful attempt at CC last weekend, there is hope for us soon!!

Every couple of months; we'd love to go out more,but finances and babysitters restrict us a bit.

I love going out with DH, he's such a good laugh and my favourite person to go almost anywhere with.(except a gig he has terrible taste in music)

Not often enough - we go out, but usually have ds with us... I am looking forward to two days in madrid in a couple of weeks (BTW anyone know any good hotels/b&bs)

Not very often.

A meal or the cinema a few times a year, maybe.

I am off out tonight with the girls....I'd sooner be going out with dp (but he's still got his head stuck in a book....)

We go out together alone around 3 times a year, 1 or 2 meals and then maybe a day or two walking. The DC are too little to leave much, and we're too skint usually. But we do sit down to a film or a takeaway a couple of times a month, and if we can get both DC asleep at our bedtime we'll often end up talking until the wee small hours. It would be nice to go out but not vital.

Maybe once every couple of months. We do go out more on our own, or we go out "en famille". It seems more acceptable in Belgium to take children to bars and restaurants. We quite often go out for a couple of drinks early evening, then collect a takeaway.

Just about never . I think that's a real disadvantage to having children late, with no family nearby to look after them.

We did manage a snatched lunchtime together a couple of weeks ago - and I felt just like I was having an affair! Then back to teatime with the children, and we were like two slaves again .

That sounds lovely, Portofino.

Very rarely. Once or twice a year max.

No babysitters, no family nearby. Can only do it when we stay with MIL.

I'm very glad to see we fit into the norm ....i.e. hardly ever!

always. constantly. we eat out too much (about twice a week) and TBH both would rather it be the two of us than anyone else - we both have quite demanding careers dealing with/talking to people non-stop so now and then we have weekends where the only other people we talk to are waiters/shop assistants. It's bliss.

Though I have been thinking about this. We had a BBQ in May to which we invited our (only) babysitter. I haven;t seen her since then! We were away for most of July. Dd went to the seaside for a week in August and had a sleepover in October - we went out on our own both those times.

We do have people over quite a lot, so I feel that we have a bit of social life, even though we don't do stuff alone together that often.

Once a month maybe. Could actually go out tonight as oldest at friend's and youngest with Granny. Instead lying on the sofa having eaten a chinese! Can't be arsed - it's raining here.

On average every six weeks I reckon, to the cinema or out for a meal which is nice. We are very lucky in that we have close family nearby who are happy to babysit.

About once a month. And at least two long weekends away per year. It's a necessity in a relationship to have that break from being a parent and just be a partner.

Almost everytime we go out. Just prefer to spend that time just the two of us as its so crazy at home.