I've never gone to an outside source for help and advice like this before but as my partner swears by it, I thought I'd give it a try (and hope she doesn't realise it's me!)
I've always known that I can trust her, I've always known family means everything to her. She never really cared for my family though, she put up them for my sake. My sisters kids are very loud and full of energy, and my BIL (brother in law) is loud and Geordie (no offence to the Geordies on here lol)
Recently though, my partner has been getting more and more friendly with them all. I saw this as a good thing.
Last month though, I noticed my partner and BIL spending a lot more time than usual together. We would be drinking and the two of them would go off into the other room to chat. Texts between the 2 of them have now started and she never let's her phone out of her sight (that's nothing new though lol)
I confronted her about my concerns and she told me to stop being stupid as she doesnt fancy him but they just have the same sense of humour. A few days later he told me she is like a female him and that is why they get on so well.
Last night she went out drinking with him and his friends and didn't get back till after 6am
Today I needed to use her computer and her Windows password had been changed. I called her and fair enough she gave me the new one. I went into Google and pressed the letter "h" and th list of previous searches appeared, the top one was "having an affair with my brother in law"
I text her to find out what was going on and she started having a go at me for "checking up on me". This is after me noticing she has googled the previous love of her life!
She then told me to turn off or it was over between the 2 of us as I shouldn't be checking up on her!
What would you people think/do in my position? I would love to hear a female perspective on this