Ok I'll start by saying my partner has lied to me before, on many more than one occasion. Mostly to do with financial stuff but there have been other things too. Anyway I KNOW he is more than capable of lying to me. Hence why I check up on him every now and again.
So lately he has become more secretive with his phone. Doesn't leave it lying around and deletes texts. When he gets a text message, he tries to ignore it whilst I'm around and then makes up some excuse to leave the room so he can look at it (toilet, making a drink etc). If he can't do that, he'll look at it but he'll tilt the phone away from me so I can't see who its from. If its a "safe" text he'll relax and show me it in a way that tells me "phew, you can look at this one ... " iyswim? Other times I see him stuttering, deleting and then saying it was from the bank or whatever.
I have access to his online account (he doesn't know this) and yesterday he text his ex wife seven times whilst he was at work (amazing really considering he tells me he can only text me in an emergency). and then a few more times whilst he was at home yesterday evening. This never happened in front of me so I can only assume it was "toilet texting". Why?
I know they were organising the ex wife taking their DD to the cinema for last night but does that really take 3 days of constant text messaging? all of which have now been deleted off his phone? (but other texts remail so its not as if he's just cleared the inbox, he's specifically deleted just her texts. Why?
He's also recently spent £50 on a credit card. Won't tell me what it was for, pretended it was my christmas present and thats why he couldn't tell me then dropped himself in it asking me what I wanted him to get me for christmas. If I mention this £50 he says "oh no, secret, can't tell you that" then when I remind him that I KNOW it isn't anything bought for me, he clams up, pretends he hasn't heard me or simply changes the subject.
So am I being paranoid here or what? I'm getting really sick of this.