so unbelievably angry

[honeybe]

I came home from a quiet meal out with some girl friends just before midnight to find dh totally drunk and, to all intents, unconcious on the sitting room floor. He was in sole charge of our 4 and 5 yos. The door was unlocked and it took me ages to rouse him. I could have been anyone. What would have happened if they woke up and found him like that? Or something worse had happened. It doesn't bear thinking about. I am so angry and upset. How can he display such blatent disregard for his childrens welfare. There was obviously no point in talking to him now. I'm going to sleep downstairs as I can't bear to be near him, but what do I do tomorrow? Too angry to even cry at the minute. I know he has a tendency to drink too much, but surely not while you are in sole charge. Any advice welcome as can't think straight.

Glad to see he's agreed to stop but it sounds like you need to keep a close eye and DO NOT let him be in sole charge of your kids.

it's a very common situation to be in honeybe, from both sides (the partner and person with drink problem)... there's no shame in it and neither of you should be ashamed to require support. there's alot of help out there so use it. no-one will judge you or him.

i do agree though that until he has stopped for a reasonable length of time, he needs to understand that it's not a good idea for him to be in sole charge of he children.

try to keep a dialogue open with him about it but at the same time, don't slip into the role of caretaker, monitoring him etc

it's an easy mistake to make when you're so close to someone in this position.

there used to be a thread devoted to people who's partners have drink problems- anyone know if it's still around?