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is this good? or not?

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isthisagoodthing · 19/11/2010 10:36

Im having a relationship and being honest, its not like anything ive ever experienced before.
We talk and talk and talk, about everything.

Everyone in my life ever, has and will always asume that im the most open person in the world. In reality this is not true at all. I have HUGE walls up about feelings etc.

This man, he wants to know everything. There is not a corner of my mind that we havent explored. Literally, everything. He wants to know everything. He gives the same back. Hes so patient with me, It took me over a year to tell him that i loved him. Though he did know already.

He says he wants me to be totally open with him, and to never be scared of thoughts or feelings, and that i can tell him. I know this is true.
( im talking about things you would never tell anyone)

Its brought us very close. But also, makes me feel vunerable.

I find it very very difficult sometimes. I have to really force myself, but then once ive started, its easy, and thats another barrier down.

I think ive got huge issues with trust, and letting people know what you really think. or showing feelings. ( not with child though).

So, is this ok, is it healthy? is this what its meant to be like?

OP posts:
isthisagoodthing · 20/11/2010 16:07

no paticular reason really.
I did something a bit out of line. He reacted.
I got angry/pissed off.
We both retreated a bit.

We just stopped communitcating really. Neither of us was honest about how we felt.

I was hurt and angry and then did something to futher piss him off on purpse, and then told him about it.

He retalliated by doing the same thing. ( or by saying the same thing)

My defenses went way way up. His did too. We still spoke as friends, but it took a fair while for us both to be honest about how we felt and where we wanted it to go.

I didnt want to admitt i loved him. He wouldnt say anything until he knew how i felt. So we were just at stalemate for a little while.

OP posts:
Mobly · 20/11/2010 16:32

Well I hope it works out the way you want it to op but to me it all sounds like that obsessive, slightly unhealthy teenage love.

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