How do you cope with differing libidos?

[crazygracieuk]

Dh is insatiable. The more we do it, the more he wants. If I had my way we'd do it a lot less.

He knows not to even touch me the wrong way when I have my period but his constant requests are knackering.

He needs to grow up

Has he not heard of the word compromise?

Seriously, what is his idea of good sex and what is yours? If he's all about getting his rocks off as quickly as he can while leaving you thinking "is that it", it's no wonder you're not impressed.

Tell him that quality is far more important than quantity when it comes to mutually satisfying sex - his need for lots of sex could mean that the sex you do have is not as satisfying as it could be.

Have you talked to him about this issue?

boot on the other foot here, dh has hardly any libido. i dont want it all the time, but a couple of times a week would be good.

nothing to suggest, maybe try to add more romance to the sex rather than just a quick shag? that way you both get what you want maybe?

My post made him sound like an animal but he's nit really. He does take no for an answer but I wondered what other people did. Sometimes doing it will get me in the mood so maybe I want it but don't realise? Such a minefield..

My ex wanted it all the time.,..,waking me up during the night. Basically he could not share the bed unless it was post sex. If i turned him down he'd start going for it by himself or leave in a sulk for porn on the couch. We've got 3 kids and even in the early months of pregnancy he'd wake me at 4 then he'd go back to sleep till 9 or so leaving me to get up at 6. Now we've split i've just found from mail sent here that he's using ukranian call girls while trying to get back with me and not paying child support. I'm feeling really wierd and queezy about this. You reckon most blokes with a high libido..high income and zero respect for women would use prostitutes while claiming to be heartbroken? i'm gonna go throw some of his stuff into bin bags for charity to make myself feel better. Sorry this is all about me

im with you crazygracie, my DH has a very high sex drive and mine is pretty much non existant. it is driving a real wedge between us as i am exhausted by his constant approaches. and groping me while i have my hands full (carrying baby, cooking etc .

and if we dont do it for several days he gets so grumpy, one word answers etc. that i just give in and let him! i hate myself for just lying there and i resent him for putting me in that situation .

i hope someone is along in a bit that can offer some advice as im getting really down with it all, just wanted yoiu to know you are not the only one in the situation.