Do you know how you want to grow old together?

[domeafavour]

Ideally how would you like to spend your retirement? What do you see yourselves doing together? Have you talked about it in depth? Just realised we have never really discussed it. Oh dear!!

We already live in the countryside so there's not much point in retiring to it!

I imagine I will do more voluntary work, I already do a bit and I expect that will just grow once I'm not working at all.

DH is older than I am so will retire before I do. I suppose it would be nice to retire early to do things together, but we haven't really thought about whether that will be do-able to be honest.

DH hopes to retire in 3 years which is a bit quick for what we have in mind to do but will be lovely. What we want to do is buy a little cottage and then run a tea shop so I can spend my days baking . We also want more animals.

Oh yes, totally agree with the Winnie the Pooh quote. I got a bit freaked out over the summer when I realised that the men in his family don't live as long as the women (his DGMs are in their 90s and still going strong, one DGF died in this 50s and the other in his 70s). The women in my family also keep on going forever.

As a result, I've been making sure he eats super-healthily and gets exercise as I can't bear to be without him.

(though for the one grandfather it was stress what done him in - having to flee his home country with his family over night and leaving everything, then having a bunch of businesses fail for reasons beyond his control).

I think part of the problem is that I can't see dh relaxing ever!

We're going to sell the house and buy a narrowboat which we'll live on in the summer, travelling the waterways of britain. DH will write and I'll knit.

In the winter we'll pop off to somewhere warm.

We are going to buy a (big) campervan and tour Europe for as long as it takes