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If your dh gets ready before you in the morning

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domeafavour · 16/11/2010 22:45

What's your routine? Does he get ready in your room, wake you up, turn the light on etc. Or does he e.g get ready in the bathroom so as not to disturb you? Does he kiss you goodbye?

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SlightlyJaded · 16/11/2010 22:54

We have moved some of DH's clothes upstairs into the guest bedroom. This room also has an ensuite bathroom. So DH gets up, goes upstairs to shower, does underwear etc upstairs and then comes down to our room to faff about get the rest of his clothes on. He gives me a kiss, stomps about loudly on the hardwood floor and nearly always wakes the DCs up, but compensates by bringing me a cup of coffee before he leaves.

We then all get another kiss and he's gone.

Sometimes if he is not too eary, I get up at the same time and start getting DCs ready for school run. He virtually never helps with this.

HTH

SixtyFootDoll · 16/11/2010 22:56

DH and I both work shifts
When we are doing earleis ( 5.30am wake up )
We leave our clothes dwonstaiars and get up and washed up down stairs so as not to wake the other one up.

hatwoman · 16/11/2010 23:00

dh gets up at about 5.30 one morning a week - he gets his clothes ready the night before and leaves them outside the bathroom. he turns the corridor light on rather than the bathroom light - because the bathroom light turns the (noisy) fan on too. when he leaves - at about 6 - he gives me a kiss.

equally, if I'm staying up late I put my pjs on earlier, and when I do go to bed I brush my teeth downstairs.

TheFallenMadonna · 16/11/2010 23:02

I get up and first and usually leave before DH gets up. I leave my clothes on the landing and get dressed in the bathroom. If DH/the DC are awake, I say goodbye. If not, I leave them sleeping.

matthew2002smum · 17/11/2010 00:49

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Tortington · 17/11/2010 02:16

dh gets dressed downstairs after he has ironed his stuff - that he probably got off the radiator.

if he woke me up - he would die.

aurynne · 17/11/2010 05:33

My DP usually gets up about an hour before I do. He goes out of the bedroom and gets dressed in the bathroom so I can go on sleeping, then he makes me breakfast and wakes me up with a kiss before leaving for work. He's fab :)

bellavita · 17/11/2010 06:28

Two mornings a week he gets up before me. He gets ready in the ensuite in our room. He will leave that light on when he comes out to enable him to see what clothes to get out, but he doesn't put the bedroom light on. He isn't the quietest of DH's. But, three mornings a week, I get up before him and I suppose I am just as noisy.

gorionine · 17/11/2010 06:30

DH is very quiet in the morning and does not wake me up wich ennoys me as I love having a coffee with him before he goes

Whitenapteen · 17/11/2010 06:41

I always (20 plus years) get up at same time whether working or not and get DH breakfast while he gets up, washed and dressed. Not PC but works for us - my choice.

deepheat · 17/11/2010 08:23

Odd question OP but I'm assuming there's an issue here? For what its worth, I'm a DH (hopefully 'D' anyway) who usually gets ready before my wife/DD are up. And yes, I get dressed in the bedroom, waking my wife up and then kiss her goodbye and wake her up again. Don't have to go in to work so early, but it means I can get home in time to have tea with DD and cook for DW. Wife also likes to see me off for the day because she knows I work my arse off to pay the mortgage.

Fair play to Whitenapteen above as well. Tbh, I think that me and wife are pretty traditional as well (except that I do all the cooking) - looking after DD is primarily her responsibility and she doesn't expect me to do a great deal when I get back from work. Partly because of that, it means that I'm much happier helping out and having some great time with DD than I would be if she were just handed to me the moment I walk through the door.

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mrspear · 17/11/2010 08:30

Hubby up before me usually; i am a light sleeper so i am awake as soon as the alarm goes off! He doesn't switch light on in bedroom but does in the hall way and rummages through drawers that way. He does get ready in the bathroom. And yes he kisses me [and ds] goodbye but if i am tired i don't always remember.

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domeafavour · 17/11/2010 09:05

Yeah deepheat there's an issue. Wasn't really problem when I was a sahm, but now back at work. Getting woken up by ds during the night and then dh at 5am, and he seems to wake up ds too. Need a solution. There just seems to be so much huffing and puffing and he can never find anything. I think he needs to be more organised!

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hairytriangle · 17/11/2010 09:33

He gets up quietly, gives me a kiss then makes me breakfast in bed. Every day :) and then he puts the showe on for me to warm it up. :)

frgr · 17/11/2010 09:33

sometimes i am up before H, sometimes he is up before me (it depends if i have a lot of travelling that week really)

on the weeks where there's more than a 10 or 15 min difference, we set our clothes and stuff the night before on the bathroom shelf - there's no point waking up the other one if they can get another half hour in bed! that's just pointless

as part of our nightly routine though, we get our clothes together, otherwise it would be more annoying than just being woken up, someone bumbling around trying to find stuff "quietly"

if your husband is disturbing you and the children, he just needs to get more organised. not much more to it...

herbietea · 17/11/2010 09:42

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BlingLoving · 17/11/2010 09:47

I get up before DH every morning. We have moved all my work clothes into the spare room as well as hair dryer etc so I get up, feed cat as fast as possible (otherwise he makes enough racket to wake the dead) and get dressed and ready to go in a different room. Then I go in and kiss DH goodbye.

He often comes to bed much later than me and puts his pjs etc out and leaves his clothes in the spare room (or laundry basket which is also in there) so he just has to slip into bed without waking me.

I used to wake him up all the time when we didn't have space for my clothes elsewhere. And it's not fair.

upahill · 17/11/2010 09:49

Dh gets up about 6.00 therefore I start to wake up (Note: start to wake up- it is a slow process for me)

He gets DS1 up who then goes in the shower and DS2 is like a zombie and jumps into my bed to continue sleeping.

Meanwhile DH goes downstairs to make the boys lunch, polish the boys shoes and check they have everything they need for school. He makes DS1 breakfast and brings me a brew and breakfast. I read for a bit.

DS1 leaves for school at 7.35am and DS2 starts to get up and DH makes his breakfast.

DS2 gets ready for school while DH starts to get ready for work/ deal with work stuff eg phone calls start coming in/ computer work.

I get up. DH takes DS2 to school and then himself to work and I then tidy the breakfast stuff and do some washing and sometimes go to work/ go cycling/ what ever.

LittlebearH · 17/11/2010 09:58

DP gets up makes a racket in the kitchen..I tell him SSSHHHHH as not to wake DD and he gets dressed and I tell him SSSHHH again (he never normally closes a cupboard or drawer but does this time)tells me to F off. then he spends ten mins cursing because he cant find keys/wallet/phone.

Then finds it and gives me a kiss goodbye!!

SlightlyJaded · 17/11/2010 11:07

domeafavour, your DH just needs to get his clothes ready the night before. Simple. My DH used to be a bit of a faffer with clothes in the morning with a fair bit of "sorry to wake you but do you know where my belt is?" going on. In the end I started snapping at him so now he gets his clothes ready the night before. End of problem. Sometimes if he is working really late - he can get in as late as 10 sometimes, I do it for him. I don't mind - it's better than being woken up and I as long as I am a SAHM, I am more than happy to do the lions share of the domestic stuff.

notnowbernard · 17/11/2010 11:11

He will get ready in our room, lights on, humping and grumping and farting and being generally Victor Meldrew-ish

Invariably wakes baby DS (in our room) with his grumping

But will bring me a coffee and make the dds' breakfast if he doesn't have to leave too early

Malificence · 17/11/2010 11:16

DH gets up about 50 minutes before me and gets dressed in the dark ( blackout curtains), checks the alarm is set for me then gives me a kiss goodbye.

rivi · 17/11/2010 11:21

dh up at 6 noise all the way until he kisses me goodbye.

I used to feel guilty for dozing and irritated by the light.

Now I wake with him and have no resentment or guilt.

I get up, shower etc as quietly as possible and wake the children up at the times that work for them. Usually they are already just stirring or just awake.

soopermum1 · 17/11/2010 11:22

DH gets dressed and showered downstairs, doesn't wake me up, the alarm is very quiet. Sometimes he wakes DS up and instructs DS to wake me at 7 (DS has digital clock in his room) or he calls at 7am while on his way to owrk, to get my lazy ass out of bed.

When i get downstairs, there's usually a cup of tea on the kitchen counter for me.

I work full time and have to get DS ready for school, so the cup of tea is always much appreciated.

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