Ex and access

[H2010]

Unhappy advice needed please!!

Sorry this is a rather long and complicated thread. In August my ex smashed up my house, kicked in the back door (glass) with my at the time 8 week baby in the room while drunk I told him to leave a couple of days later he returned drunk smashed up my bedroom and tried to take the baby out of the crib he was stumbling all over the place I managed to take the baby off him and again told him to leave after a very heated argument he left. Soon after he left I discovered my car key had gone off my house keys I looked out the window and the car had been taken. He has no license etc and was extremely drunk. I rang the police to repot it and was told the car had been found on its roof with my ex inside the car was a write off and he was arrested and charged for theft drink driving etc. He was sent to prison for 8 weeks. When he was in prison I was gettin endless phone calls/text messages off his family re access to the baby. The calls started to get threatening so I stopped all contact. He was released 3 weeks ago and has not stopped pestering me since. I report all contact to the police and they advised me to get an injunction via a solicitor. I am now back with my husband who I have 2 children to and we are very happy as are the children. I am not entitled to legal aid my ex is he has never had a job in his life, has an alcohol problem, a long criminal recored and a 3 year asbo. He just wont leave me alone wanting to see the baby. she is now 5 months old and is a very happy settled little girl and I dont want him anywere near her. Sorry its so long. Please help !

My advice would be to move and not tell him where you've gone.

let him take it to court.
yes see a solicor and get an injunction.

present your case and evidence - but he may well get supervised access. courts tend to go for contact and he is her father (presume he named on birth certificate?).

let him take it to court, so that CAFCASS can do a child welfare report taking into account his background.

dont correpsond with him, or his family - if courts award supervised contact you can have arrangemtns made thru third party and insiit on supervised contact centre visits given the background.

Yes, let it go to court, srcond that having had to do the same with my own ex who sounds similiar to yours

He will have to address alcohol etc, so supervised should be no problem.

However, courts do push to move on quickly from this stage, so be prepared for that

Keep a diary of all that is happening too

You may want to post this in the "legal matters" area.

The courts work on the basis that it is in the child's interests to have contact with the absent parent in most cases. If he goes to court it is likely that he will be able to get contact, although given what you have said it is likely to be supervised initially. However, that will be seen as a stepping stone towards eventual unsupervised contact.

Moving and not telling him where you've gone would not go down well with the court when he tracked you down.