Ok, need some advice, ideas etc and fairly fast please.
Quick background.
Dd hasn't seen her father since July 09, he hadn't phoned and had made maybe 2 texts in January this year following an MSN 'chat' where I said he should be phoning as he said he would. He then went to work abroad to work and I assume was back in the country during the summer.
So...out of the blue two weeks ago I get a phonecall from him telling me that he's going to be working abroad for at least a year. It takes me to ask if he's going to see Dd before he goes and I've received a text saying that this Tuesday is best for him.
Having got to thinking about this, I'm starting to wonder if seeing her father for a couple of hours after not seeing/speaking to him for 16 months is going to upset her; I don't even know if she'll realise who he is as last time she saw a picture of him, she thought he was grandad.
I haven't yet replied to his text about Tuesday, but obviously I have to fairly soon. If I say no, I'm risking him stopping his maintenance payments (for the third time) and I really can't survive without it tbh and the CSA won't have a chance of catching up with him in Saudi, so now I feel a bit stuck. I was hoping he'd not have time to see her and just email me from over there.
Don't really know what I'm asking from you ladies and gents, but I'm in a terrible quandry. I haven't mentioned anything to Dd yet; I'm not sure she'll know what I'm saying as she's 3.10.
Any ideas please?
TIA.