Just read the competitive moving on thread some of which posed relevant questions and I didn't want to hijack. I wondered what you thought of my situation and could advise me on what to do.
My ex left for OW just over 12 months ago, they are still together.
I have been seeing a guy for about 5 months and barring a hiccup on Friday, we are getting along really well. Although his commitment to me seems more than mine to him at this point, he says he loves me and can't imagine what it will be like to not have me in his life etc. So he's in pretty deep, whereas, even though I can say I do have feelings of love for him, I'm not sure how deep this runs.
Anyway, back to my original question. I haven't told exh about him yet, my DC's have met and like him (both away at Uni). The main reason I haven't told ex yet is that I don't want to cause problems with regard to divorce/settlement negotiations, which on occasions are bit heated.
My ex says things like if I have another man then he can look after me, why should he fund my relationships etc. I can see his point in a way, but surely his financial commitment is to me as stbex and DC, with no concern to a relationship where I have no intention of living with/marrying new partner.
So would you keep quiet and hope he never finds out, DC's are certain they aren't going to tell him?
Do you think it unfair of me to put them in that situation, eventhough they understand my reasons?
Or do you think it is the right thing to do, to make exh aware of my situation?