I am currently working with a male colleague who has just met his first ever girlfriend and first sexual relationship. He is 20 and she is 18. The environment we are currently in is complicated but lets just say its a lot of people away from home and predominately male orientated.
He is absolutely over the moon at having lost his virginity and its all he had ever wanted 'better than he could have ever wished for' his words.. He thinks and absolutely believes that this relationship will be forever.
Now myself and the other colleagues who work beside him are far older and far more cynical worldy wise. We all beleive he will have his rite of passage and move on once his time here has come to and end, she will remain for some time after he leaves.
Now the worry we all have is that he is being played for an absolute fool, yes we all tease him about finally popping the cherry etc.. but we are essentially concerned that he will be unecessarily hurt.
Last night there was a party, i was not present but have been told all about it, it was a small party of 5 males and this 18 year old. A card game of strip was started and she wholeheartedly joined in. The result was her ending up in just her pants and the other males (including the boyfriend) in various states of undress.
In her undressed state she was egging the guys on and leaving no room for misinterpretation, inviting a possible group sex situation.
The party ended on that note thankfully as the other males quickly realised this had possibly went far enough. The boyfriend was way out of his depth and didnt quite know how to react. I have spoken to him today about it and he admitted that he just didnt know how he should be feeling, should he be upset or is it just part of her personality to be a bit outrageous/flamboyant?
I personally think she is to be avoided at all costs and that she will hurt him awfully. No matter how much she appears to be 'Miss Sweetness and Light.
There are 2 sides to this though, i have no loyalty to this girl but being a female myself i feel she is treading dangerously and the party situation could have had so many different outcomes, if that behaviour is normal to her then i find that worrying and if im honest in this environment completely terrifying.
The other side to it is we all feel she is making a fool out of my colleague who is blinded by her behaviour and completely accepting of everything because he wants to be the 'perfect' boyfriend, he is utterly clueless about women and readily admits this.
So do we as his colleagues try and speak to him to finish with her? Do we let it run and help him when it goes bad? Have a quiet word with her about appropriate behaviour? or none of the above and just keep our big beaks out?