How do I make my husband leave?

[FeministByProxy]

We have three dcs, and this morning, like most weekends, he's name called and sworn at me in front of our dcs. In fact he told me to fuck off and called me a fat cunt, I am a size 10 (not that that's the point).

I have had enough, the house is in his name and I'm a SAHM.

I don't like/love/fancy him. I want to be on my own, I'd rather allow my dcs to grow up in a loving home.

He won't leave, he says I'm horrid for wanting to break up the family.

if the house is in his name i don't think you can force him to leave.

go to your local CAB this morning and talk to someone about what you are entitled to and how to get the ball rolling. then leave him.

do you have someone you can stay with short term?

Womens aid can advise you, do you have some money?

No, he's changed all passwords to his account (he got us into bad debt and so we had to use my account for everything, then without telling me he got everything paid into his new account). We had bailiffs a plenty last year and through my management it all changed, but now in addition to the fact that I hate him he's left me without cash.

I have been making an exit plan for a year or so, but I don't think I can take anymore. I hated my mother for staying with my abusive father and I'm doing the same, I don't want my dd thinking it's alright for someone to insult her with the word 'woman', let alone cunt, twat, slag etc.

please call someone and get out of there.
do you have anyone at all you could just go to? parents? friends? i know it isn't ideal but it would only be short term

i have to admit to not really having much knowledge on this but wouldn't local authority provide emergency housing?

Call women's aid now. They will help. This man is very abusive and of course you can't stay with him. It's possible that you can get an occupation order on the family home ie that he can be made to leave it, even though it's in his name, but even if you can't, better living in a rented flat somewhere (you will get housing benefit) than living with an abusive arsehole.

I escaped my ex h. The quickest way to get re housed will be via the hostel route. I did this with 4 dc and it was ok.

I got a good house at the end (HA). in a hostel you will be classified as homeless and will be high priority on housing list

You will get benefits. You can get a community care grant for furniture once you are allocated a property.

Could you see yourself going this route?

If you are married you should be entitled to half the house whoevers name it is in.

He doesnt sound like he has a single thing to recommend him and you dont love him either.

I would start a new life today. Contact WA find out what you can and cant do from there.

No question about it you are going to be happier and you probably wont even need to wait for the long run

assuming the house is not already mortgaged to the hi,t you need to register your interest in the property at the land registry. that will prevent him from furrther remorgaging with out you being notified which you can then prevent

Half-hour free initial solicitors appointment also.

Register my interest, yes that's what rights for women said....I couldn't remember! I have been seeking advice from a variety of sources, I can get an occupation order but only if we divorce or if he's violent.