are most men disloyal?

[fizzfiend]

pretty disillusioned today. separated from DH but he's a lovely guy...just not the man for me. So now his two closest friends have come on to me. Tried to kiss me, etc. I am pretty disgusted with them.

I am a fun, upbeat person and look fairly good for my age, but I am sure I have never done anything to encourage them except be friendly and upbeat. I would never, ever have an affair with my DH's best friends....it would destroy him. One of his friends is seriously happily married too. Just feel like being sick. On behalf of my DH too.

Are all men like this? I never ever thought these two guys (DH's friends from way back when) would have stooped so low. Just because I am suddenly single, doesn't mean I am fair game surely? I'm not a prude by any stretch...but really? Please tell me they're not all like this...or are they?

Of course they aren't.

Well, the married one is a knob, but if the other one is single, he's not being 'disloyal' to anyone to chat you up when you are single, too. That doesn't mean you have to accept his advances if you don't want to, but if he has, perhaps, had a crush on you for ages and has tried to test the water, that doesn't make him a bad person.

ANd no, FFS, not all men are like this because not 'all' men are like anything. Some men are gay, some men are asexual, some are complete shaggers and some are utterly monogamous. Men, like women, are people not a set of gender traits.

Sorry....just feeling a bit shocked. But surely the single one should have got "clearance" first. I would never go near my girlfriends' exes, especially when it's all so recent.

Sparkling: don't you think he's being disloyal to his friend. And are you sure that men are like women? I mean, I will quite happily sleep with more than one man at the same time (not threesome, but you know what i mean). But my ex-DH is such a sweet guy and deserves kindness from his friends.

Just feeling a bit gobsmacked....one friend was an anomaly...two...now it's just got me thinking WTF?

fizzfiend, you might not go near your girlfriends' exes, but some women would.

Likewise, I know that this kind of male pouncing on a newly single woman in their social circle does go on, it happened to my mum with 2 blokes, both married, one a family friend, soon after my dad left.

So YES it does happen, but NO, not ALL men do it.

No, most men are not disloyal but some people, no matter what their gender or sexuality, will try it on with anyone seemingly available - even if they are not available themselves.

Well I will try to believe that most men are not disloyal...I would like to think not.

It seems that now I am "single" I am fair game...no matter what their status.

To me this is a just another good reason not to get married again....

Maybe the single one has already been given "clearance" - whatever the hell that is!!