someone come and fucking slap me

[loonat48]

I split from my H 6 months ago. we have 4 dc, 15-5.

we were married 16 years. I was never unfaithful. I am almost 49

about a month ago I met man who is single. about my own age. we met up once subsequently at a social event (he knows people I know)

then I lost his number and he sent me a card to my friends house after about a week, (only way he would know how to get in touch) with his number on it. We have texted a few times in the last week, and I have called (after he asked me to) and left a message - he replied by txt

i am going bonkers, I think , in reality, he is 'unsuitable' but I feel like a bloody teenager. Cant let the phone out of my sight, fretting about if he likes me or not, will we have a date? FFS - someone tel me how to behave like the rational adult woman I am (in every other circumstance! )

Oh just enjoy it but don't take it too seriously! It's rare to find Mr Perfect at the first "go" so just have fun and don't overthink...

why is he unsuitable?

Exciting though, innit

Breathe...breathe again...
I am happy for you.

(You don't need to be slapped, btw)
Bake him some cookies.

FFS, just enjoy it. He doesn't have to be the "one".

I am newly separated and it give me such a buzz to be chatted up etc. Just enjoy it for what it is. Dont over think it.

Obviously, if he is unsuitable because he seems violent then I take all of that back!

I have just had the most fun year of my life with THE most unsuitable man I have ever met. He's a womaniser, loads of baggage, dreadful history.

But I knew it was never going to be a marriage job. And it was the most exhilarating fun...brought me back to life. I'm not far off your age either....so enjoy it. It's bloody marvellous feeling like a teenager again....just don't start sleeping til 2pm and grunting :-)

After 16 years of marriage, you've lost sight of the fact that it's perfectly all right to have random relationships for fun. It's called dating

You can make the move, you know! We're well into the 21st century. If you start getting all emotionally embroiled, use Mumsnet again and you'll get your slapping ... meanwhile, have a good time. Use condoms.

As long as you keep it casual (ie NO talk of commitment, no moving in or anything) then enjoy every minute of it.

Its good to feel like a teenager again, relax and enjoy. He sounds pretty keen.