Long and short: (although it's turned out quite long!) my partner and I split up 2 weeks ago and I told him to leave because I realised I was scared of him during arguments - he's left bruises on me at least 3 times in 18 months and grabs/pulls me about during arguments, lately every time we have a spat. He's also made me feel very insecure by dumping me whenever he wants one over in an argument.
He wanted to try and work through things so this week we've been to relationship counselling and he went to anger management - apparently they said there's nothing they can do to stop the physical side of things and that I had to stop winding him up.
He's today said it's not going to ever work because I won't take joint responsibility for everything. Basically he says if I didn't moan at him he wouldn't get physical which we all know is bull.
His idea of me moaning - he strolls in at 6pm when he's supposed to cook (which I only ask him to do every few weeks) but something always comes up on these days when usually he's in at 4pm, another example is we agree to get a dog and I say from day 0 that I don't want him feeding it human food by hand, he ignores this after the first few weeks and then insists it's his dog and he'll do what he likes. Result a dog who follows you around wanting bits of food ALL the time.
So it''s basic couple stuff I moan and he argues back. His expectation of this split is that I stop moaning at all to him. Basically he wants to do what and when he likes. If I do moan it gives him free reign to be angry and agressive (which he says he knows is wrong but something he can't change)
Lord give me strength
Oh and I've been having tests for cervical cancer and he's told me to hurry up and die in arguments so that he can have his son to himself. He also says I'm not considerate of the familys feeling because I'm keeping it together too well...but what about them apparently....
Girls give me strength!