How can I make an appointment with a sex therpaist?

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Is it possible to see on one the NHS? I've really lost interest in sex and have been feeling like this for a while. We had a baby just over a year ago and with the stress of all that, return of some anxiety disorder and a bit of PND, and now quite a bit of job uncertainty my sex drive has pretty much entirely gone.

I still have sex with DH a few times a week but he knows that I don't enjoy it and that it's not like it used to be. It's now at the stage where DH is accusing me of having sex with other people as I don't seem to have any interest in him (which I haven't, but not for the reasons he thinks). I keep telling him why I've gone off it and that I'm not cheating on him but he doesn't believe me and anyway, it's not solving the problem. I really don't know how to get my sex drive back but until I do my marriage is going to continue to struggle and I don't know how long I can let it do that without it all falling apart.

Which is why I was thinking that it might be a good idea to see a sex therpaist. Or would a GP be able to help with loss of sex drive or do I have to be referred? Very grateful for any advice.

Ask G.P, may sugest Relate sessions. some available on the NHS too.
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Doesn't sound like you particularly need a sex therapist. It's normal to not have much of a sex drive when you have a baby and maybe your DH pushed you back into it too soon so you have now lost your association with it being an enjoyable activity. Some help from a therapist for the depression and anxiety would make you start to feel better perhaps, meanwhile, your DH needs to understand more about women's sex drives. Some advice from a sex therapist to him could be very useful.

you have a year old baby and have sex a few times a week? You are a GODESS! Jesus, he needs to get a reality check and understand that when you have a child sometimes (certainly not a few times a week) you do it out of necessity

GODDESS I think!

Agree, few times a week is astounding.

I think the issue might be with your dh as well, why is he accusing you of cheating? A bit paranoid, is he?

He thinks your cheating ? Has he mentioned seperating , or perhaps relate ? I doubt it.

Sounds to me like hes just trying to guilt you into sex . Why on earth is he pestering you for sex when he knows your not enjoying it ? You dont need a sex therapist , you need a less selfish partner.

I agree with Dignified.