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[patsy8]

Hi,
I've been in a relationship with a someone for 6 months and I am very happy we get on great and gets on fantastic with my children. However my previous boyfriend who I was with I can't stop thnking about him. he hurt me very much on more than one occassion and finished it on more than one occassion but now wants me back. Even though I am happy but cant get this other guy out of my head... :-(

so...you are considering going back to him so that he can hurt you all over again?

My guess is - he doesn't WANT YOU BACK - he just doesn't want anyone else to have you.

I know seems silly, just can't seem to be able to get over him

He is playing a game - just cos you are with someone else and happy - he ants to mess it p. If you go back to him you will end up in the same old crap pattern. Leave the tosser in the past where he belongs.

msboggie - Thank you :-)

Thank you mumonthenet.. but how do I get over him a silly question but I hate feeling like this

Ask yourself what exactly is it that you can't get over...?

Is it just cos the bastard destroyed your self-confidence and you have a lot of residual hurt? (My guess, sorry, I don't know you - how old are you btw?

38, with 2 kids he had 2 kids... don't know what to get over, just can't seem to get over him

oh and got very close to his family and miss them to

for you.

But even so, from the little you've written, sounds like you really WOULD be wise to not go down that particular road again.

Don't know what else to advise really, treat yourself well, fill up your life with the best that you can for you, for your dc's, and maybe for your new guy but if that doesn't work out well, what the hell! (Sorry)

Make plans!!!! Good plans.

think many of us have someone like this, someone we know is not right for us and we know how horrible they were to us yet we still yearn for them in some sick way.even when we have a perfectly nice man at our side! I think its something we have to deal with mentally and al part of growing up and realisng whats imoprtant in a relationship for it to last!

mumonthenet thankyou for responding

littlemisslost think u are right.... sometimes wonder if it was because got on so well with his family and friends...
sigh :-(

that is a BIG factor, I know that two of my ex's that I was with for a long time (2-4 years) I got on very well with their mums and families and my dh's family I dont get along with really at all. I do sometimes look them up on Facebook or think about what might have been (especially christmas times etc) because I miss their families and friends circle sometimes, but you cant' have it all....so it seems. YOu can't be with an a**hole or someone who treats you bad just because you like his family

lol love it.... yes friends circle I totally agree, he was in group we had some good good times... stil friends with some of them on facebook, not him though