Some time ago DH had an affair that I found out about through his phone bill (by accident, same initial, I opened it)
So, we get over it, we move on together.
Then two weeks ago, he goes out on the Friday night to a works do, and on the Saturday get's a text. I jokingly say "who loves you?" and he said "oh, it's Stuart asking how I am".
He was at work on the Sunday, and things begin to niggle, so as I go to bed I sent him a text asking to see the message from Stuart when he gets home (we have an agreement that no text messages are deleted from our phones).
I get a long message after I am asleep, admitting that the message was from Z (female) saying Hiya, and that he had been speaking to her at the do the night before, and that she and her boyfriend had subsequently had an argument.
He then had a whole text message conversation with her over the course of the Sunday (before I sent my text) which he has now deleted. He was "helping her with her problems with her boyfriend as her self esteem is low and she is too good for him"
She works in the next office to him, is younger than him, he admits that he finds her attractive, but would never do anything because he loves me.
I am not really coping with this. I have explained to him that loving me means trusting me if there was nothing in the text messages that was untowards, that he is a fuckwit of the highest order and that he has taken the trust issue from me back 10 steps. He has reactivated my online access to his online billing. He admits that deleting them was an error of judgement.
Any advice on how to handle this? Because I am not handling it very well at the moment.