Help, what do i for xmas??

[xxfriendlymum]

I am dreading christmas this year because I cant see a way every1 can be happy.

Basically I have 3 children. I left my long term partner and farther to all the children a year ago. He was treating me badly and we both acted childish. My mum was my rock and helped me move.
I moaned to her about him all the time and now she hates him.
However a couple of months ago me and him decided to give it another go.

He and my mum have already argued but she doesnt know we are back together.
Who do i invite for christmas???
They both cant stay in the same house.
I cant face telling my mum I took him back.
The kids will be heartbroken if dads not there. But my mum will be on her own on xmas day. ???? Arrghhh please help any advice??

I would tell your mum that on christmas day you are having ex for lunch to help the children cope with christmas, but you would love to have her to stay boxing day onwards. How does that sound? No lies or confusion, just a clear 'this is the way it will be'. Its probably too soon to get them together and the focus this year must be on what will help the children. If you explain it is for them she might understand.