What do you make of this?

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I am a regular but have namechanged for this.

My DH went out to the pub on Saturday to watch the rugby match. He had arranged to go with an old friend, but at the last minute the friend cancelled. DH said he would go anyway as there was another chap going (an acquaintance of the friend who cancelled). DH had never met this other chap before.

The whole family was invited to a fireworks party later that night which DH knew all about, and he said he would be home in time (party start was 5pm).

When I came downstairs from changing for the party, I discovered that DH had brought this man back from the pub (it was a drive away) and was having a cigar and a brandy with him in the garden. I reminded him we had a party at 5pm.

At 5.30pm, I left for the party with the DC while DH stayed at home for another hour with his new friend.

Later, DH said this man had been lonely because his wife worked abroad.

What do you think?

Sounds like he was being nice and felt this man needed his company more than you and teh dc did at that moment in time...

Do you have any reason (other than having to go alone) to feel suspicious of him?

I'm not sure what you are expecting us to think! Er - your DH has made a new friend who is lonely because his wife works abroad?

Well I'd be bit pissed off at this, your DH should have gone to the party with you, but that's about it.
Or am I missing something???

care to elaborate on what you are getting at ?

does your husband regularly miss family parties and this was the last straw ?

your husband is bisexual and brought this man home for a bonk ?

what ?

I have just been watching Brokeback Mountain so yes I would be suspicious!

i don't know, OP...seriously, we need a bit more info.

• how far away is the pub? like is it two minutes walk just round the corner, or ten stops on the tube?

• does he often befriend and bring home strange men or was this a one off?

what was this bloke like, anyway? and what did you DH say about it all?

are you going to add any more, OP, or keep us guessing ?

if you are a regular, you will know how these kinds of threads tend to go....

Well, it struck me as odd to bring home a strange man and then sit in the dark at the end of the garden with him and to miss coming to a prior engagement for the first hour.

The pub is about 5-7 minutes drive away. We have several good pubs within 200 metres of our house where DH normally goes, so driving to a pub to watch a match was odd anyway (we also have a 48 inch screen in a cinema room and Sky Sports at home, but I can see company is good).

I dunno, just raised a few eyebrows amongst my friends even though i didn't make too much of it and so I wondered if other people's DHs had ever brought home a strange man the first time of meeting and not in any kind of group "let's all go back to mine for more beer" kind of way.

I'd assume that the guy was pouring his heart out to DH and that DH didnt feel able to leave him on his own while he went out to a party with his faamily as it would seem like rubbing it in how lonely he is iyswim

Sounds like your DH is a nice guy

My DH once brought baack a random swedish student he'd met in a pub who had nowhere to stay and I woke up to find them both passed out drunk on the living rooom floor
He seemed nice enough when he woke up and tootled off to wherever he was travelling to never to be seen again..

your friends perhaps need to get a life of their own...

I don't understand what you are asking? Di you think your husband has a sexual interest in this man?

It's not as if the man was a total random though was it? He is a friend of a friend.

I think your DH sounds like a nice guy and I have to admit that sitting in the garden smoking and drinking with a new friend sounds rather more exciting than a prearranged party with the sort of people who find friendliness worthy of a raised eyebrow.

Hmmm - are we all supposed to be excitedly deducing that your DH is a closet homosexual who goes (shock horror) to the pub 5-7 minutes away when he fancies pulling?

In answer to your original question, I think you are thinking way too much about all of this.

i can see how explaining the absence of your husband to family and friends might raise a few eyebrows, close friends and family do tend to think they have a right to an opinion on everything, and to say he will be along in a bit, hes just having a drink sat in the garden in the dark with a new person hes only just met, might sound a bit iffy, but your husband might not of really wanted to go to a firework family thing, (fireworks bore me rigid and i detest standing in the cold and dark for ages, much rather be in front of tv with a takeaway but if i say that out loud people accuse me of being a misery)so unless you have deep rooted suspicions about your hubby, i wouldn't worry to much,

Entirely normal .
Wish my husband was as friendly.

Could he nothave brought new friend to fireworks party?

maybe your hubbie had a few beers and fancied having a drink and hanging out with a bloke over doing family fireworks stuff...