My mum, a perfect 61 year old

[tesrocks]

would like to meet a man - please offer your suggestions - thank you.

20 years ago my dad died, he was 43 years, my mum was 39 years - she is ready to meet another man and wants my help. Help me, help her.

Thank you

S x

ps she is lovely

Please give us some advice. I am 38 years and no idea about dating today. We live in Sussex and my mum good fun, outgoing and runs her own business.

Cheers

s x

ps Matches etc

place ad in personal columns in the newspaper of her choice (ie. if is guardian she is more likely to find like-minded liberal types, if is daily mail will find like-minded small-minded types etc).

this is how my lovely mum, 59 at the time and a widow, found her partner and they've been together for 9 years - still going v strong

Are there any local clubs or societies she could join? Adult Education classes? At least that way they should have similar interests.

My ex-MIL joined some kind of club for her age group. I will call her and ask if there are other similar groups in other areas.

My own mum runs U3A groups and has met lots of people that way.

Hi Tesrocks

My Mum is the same age and sounds similar. She is very very social, always out and about and very popular but says she never meets any single men. Or if she does she will always write them off on the strength of them having a moustache or sandals or something! She doesn't want to meet anyone on the internet in case they try and take her money off her or tell her what to do.

She could be a bit intimidating I think - she is very independent (minded and financially), pretty and has a big dog! Seriously though, neither of us want to think of her having another 15 years of singledom.

Sorry for the semi-hijack - just wanted to empathise, share and hopefully get some ideas off the back of your thread.

U3A = University of the Third Age

Play bridge. It is not hard at all. Lots of socialising around bridge, to extend her circle of acqaintances. Lots of people. Speed dating. Also, lots of charity bridge events. Easier than dominoes.

Actually, dominoes?

Golf?

Clubs and activities. My mum met her current partner (at around that age)at a cycling club.

By 'Speed Dating', I meant that if you play bridge in a tournament, (an informal fundraiser, for a local charity ususally), you play four hands, have a chat, and then play a new pair, and so on. So you meet lots of people in one session.

Try an upmarket online dating sites like the Times Encounters, the Guardian, or Saga- see all online.

Otherwise there are up market dating agencies like Drawing Down the Moon.

Mixing with other people though too- dancing groups? Sporty things? Volunteering?

All of the above!

Hi again

Brilliant ideas - thank you. I will let you know is she has any joy. She is fab at dominoes, shut the box and gin rummy!