Too embarassed to get intimate

[MummikinsOopNorth]

I have met a nice man and things were going really nice and he has been treating me like a princess. I know the time is right (it just feels it) for things to be going onto the next level. We have only kissed passionately so far. I do want to have sex with him but i'm terrified to get naked.

I have a burn scar on my body, convering most of one of my breasts and the thought of him seeing it makes me want to run a mile. Also, i'm really quite on the large side and have rolls of fat that i'm sure will make him vomit.

Just lately, i've been ignoring his requests to see each other as I just cannot stand the thought of him seeing me naked, but i'm beginning to have strong feelings for him so I don't want to lose him! What do I do?

Have you told him about your scar? The thought of him seeing it might not be so frightening if you know he isn't going to be surprised or ask questions when you're half naked and feeling vulnerable.

He's obviously keen to see you, and there are very few people who would be put off someone they like because of something like a scar or wobbly bits.

no, no: don't "tell him about the scar" that makes it seem like the scar is a big deal, which it really isn't.

but DO tell him about how you got burned :-( .

He probably will ask whether it left scars, and then you can say 'yes', and he'll know to expect, but even if he doesn't think to ask at the tiem when he eventually sees the scar he'll know what it is, and won't be surprised, which will be calmer for you.

Oh, Your post makes me
We all feel crap about our bodies, even supermodels do. But it is so lovely that you've met someone nice, and having passionate kisses (remember them?!) Just enjoy it all. Talk to him about how you're feeling if it feels right for you to do that. If you are avoiding him now, he will be thinking all sorts and wondering if he is doing something wrong. Invite him over and open the wine. Life is too short to stress it. If he is as lovely as you think he will put your mind at ease. Be happy!

Not all men are put of by features like this you know, they really aren't.

It is a feature btw of you nothing to be ashamed of.

I'm not a bloke, but I'll give you my perspective anyway, if I was your prospective shag. I'd appreciate you just telling me about your burn, but if I really liked you it wouldn't matter in the slightest (because by now I'd know whether I really liked you as a person.)
Rolls of fat: I'm not being funny but folk can tell what size you are with clothes ON. So it's not a surprise naked. This wouldn't put me off either; if I felt strongly about it I'd have bowed out by now.
Don't ignore him though, he sounds nice.

MummikinsOopNorth, no one has such a bad reaction to our bodies as the one we think they will have. As Gay40 said, he has seen you with clothes on and knows what your size is. Do bring up the subject of being burnt and answer his questions in an honest way. And when you get to the moment of being naked, I recommend you to show your body in all its glory, with lights on, and don't try to cover yourself. Being self-confident is the biggest turn-on. And also, he will see it completely that first time and you won't feel there is anything else to hide the consequent times that I am sure there will be :)

Oh, and most important of all, congratulations on finding a very promising man, and have lots of fun!

I am a bloke, and I'd agree with Gay40 above.