I have been seeing my new partner for nearly 2 months and we have a good sex life in that he is very giving, will take time to make me climax at least once, there is huge chemistry and physical 'spark' between us, he is also very affectianate, hugs/strokes etc but....
he has problems maintaining an erection and he has only completed with me twice! He stays hard for 5 to ten minutes of sex but then it goes. We've spoken about it and he gets upset and emabarrassed and says the problem started when he was with his previous partner, its nothing to do with not fancying me etc, he's given me loads of reassurance but... I feel its driving a wedge as he won't always get into anthing sexual because of this worry, he seems happy with a once /twice week session and i feel rejected if he just wants to cuddle!! He says he does masterbate but only around once a week, sometimes uses porn sometimes doesn't, I've asked to join in with that and he seemed quite shy!
Looking at this written down i probably look heartless but Im worried he wants me to settle for this and get on with it as he doesn't want to see a doctor or give up smoking. Im staying tonight and just know he'll say he's not in the mood and can we cuddle! Things are going great otherwise im worried this is going to be a major hurdle 