Slept with someone while broken up.

[brokengirl]

I have been with my boyfriend for a long time over 5years dating off and on. We recently broke up beceause he was always accusing me of lying and he was always in a bad mood due to some medications he was on. I thought we were over for good and about a month later a made a mistake with another guy. I felt extremly guilty bc afterall I loved my ex., but I was single right?... Well two months later my ex calls begging for me back and promising change. We are back togehter now. Things are going pretty good but Should i tell him i slipped up while we were broken up? I feel like he will accuse me of cheating even though i really didnt. Recently he has been making wierd comments like. I know you talked to someone else or selpt with someone beaceuse your acting different. I think Im acting the same. What should i do. Just continue as if it never happend and not tell him? I love him so much and would hate to hurt him. Im already living with this disgust of myself.

I agree with Bast - totally.

I also think that you don't sound good for each other and should go back to being single - this is not what being in a relationship should be like.

No, I'm sorry - single is single and she owes him no information or explanation at all. They may not have got back together at all, and he'd still have no entitlement to what went on.
I'm putting my money on the fact that he banged someone else and is seeking justification by establishing that she did as well.
He sounds like a twat anyway, though.

But it wasn't a BREAK. It was a break up. Shall people just NOT move on, and not get on with their lives in case their ex partner changes his-her mind?

It was not defined as a break until he wanted her back...

I agree that he sounds awful, but I don't understand why you lied to him. I would just have told him that it was none of his business what I got up to whist I was single. I don't see why this is such a big deal to him. If you split up with someone then they are free to see other people. If you get back together you can't do a "poor me, bad you" act if they've done so.
I hate blokes who try to tell me when I am or am not into sex so would dump him. There doesn't sound to be much love between you.

Oh come on, what are you putting up with this for? Even if you did somehow sort this thing out with him, what would he latch on to next? He sounds as if he thinks he's on a Jeremy Kyle show. Give him the boot and get a bit of self respect back.

oh someone say it... ok I will

'We were ON A BREAK'

you sound well rid, btw

It would make me feel a lot better if I told him, but I wouldn't be able to live with him holding it over my head forever. That's why I wanted to keep it to myself because if he knew his suspicions were right this time, he would probably say I'm a cheater even though im not. I left him before and it was hard. Right when i was getting comfortable with it I take him back. I shouldn't have. I don't know what im going to do. This is a real Eye-Opener. I probably should Run.

Probably should run?? WTF? SO you didn't do anything wrong but you have lied to him, the act of lying to him is a bit dodg if you want a long term relationship with this nut nut man, but you were not together, you had no ides you were going to be together again. He is nuts tell him to do one, get your trainers on and run.

Tell him you've made a mistake, that it really isn't going to work out between you and best he leave now rather than you break up in another five years' time. Don't let him try to talk you around. Sounds like he will. Just keep saying "My mind is made up and nothing you say or do is going to change that." Don't debate with him about how and why, because he will swear (again) that he will change, that he will do x, y and Z just to keep you, but he won't. He won't because he isn't able to.

Probably?? Sweet pea - there's no probably about it! Go now. Don't look back.

& what Duchesse said!

I don'ysee why he could hold it over your head as you weren't together at the time. That's the bit you need to get into his thick, jealous skull. You were not his partner at the time. If he is going to be jealous about this forever then you are better off without him. You weren't unfaithful. He can only "hold it over your head" if you don't tell him to stop being so petty and live in the real world.
If my bloke and I had split up and then got back together yes I'd feel a bit jealous if he told me he'd slept with someone else, but I would see this as MY problem, not something he had done wrong.
If your bloke believes everything is your fault and you have to lie to him to keep him from being unpleasant you really are better off without him.