Stupid Pig of a Man

[trappedfool]

So the wanker that is my P, rolls out of bed at half one today, then an hour or so later says he is dropping up to his friend for half an hour 'don't worry I'm not going out to watch the match' says he
So I ask him can he get some milk for me before he goes as Cupboards are bare, but can make do til children are in bed then pop to Tescos. So he brings back the milk and a kitkat for me....and the cunt disappears for the day!
Not one call, text; doesnt answer his phone.
So come 11o'clock I ring his loser mate who tries to cover for the asshole so I put my sweetest reasonable partner voice on and pretend I'm just coming out to collect my car then I finally get the loser himself onto the phone and the convo starts like this:
Me: Where are you
P(for prick): In the 'white Horse'
Me: Why?
P:cos the 'Red Lion' is closed
Me: I have no food for the (4) dcs lunches tomorrow and now I will have no car to dring them to school
P:But I got you a litre of milk and a kitkat
M: ....well actually at this point I flipped and screamed at him not to bother coming home and to keep his eye on the door as I would be up collect my car keys and to make a holy show of him as he has done so many times to me.
However ,now I am terrified of him
g in pissed and falling around the place spilling his bile.
It may sound like I am overeacting but there is a back story; I have posted on here a few times over the last year about his depression,abuse of drink drugs and verbal /emotional abuse etc.
My poxy front door has no bolt and I'm afraid to go sleep :(

yes I do have experience with alcoholic Irishmen. To my cost. They will never in a million years see that they have a problem and yes, you could say the same for an alkie of any nationality, but yer alkie Irishmen has a whole culture backing him up that is nigh on impossible to override.

my partner is unfortunately cannabis dependant as well as being unable to drink in moderation. He suffers with crippling depression and is unable to stick to any course of treatment.
However I have now managed to see the cycle of abuse I am in for what it is.

I rechristened my self after he left for a month and I for some insane reason took him back.

What sort of lock ave you got ??

If you put the key in the lock and turn it upwards he won't be able to get his key in the door iyswim ?

The stupidest lock in the world, a handle which needs a key from the outside and just has a twisty knob thing on the inside

Ah, a yale lock. Bugger !

well, if you mean business blockade the door and call the cops if he turns up . But you will have to start making plans to ditch the fucker for your kids' sakes. You can't keep letting him piss about with your lives. They'll end up like him if you leave it too long.

I know it needs to get changed ASAP any how as dc age 4 is rather fond of opening it and the 2 year old is watching intently all he time

they watch and listen and they follow the pattern, unless they are lucky.

Yah was planning to leave after xmas; more to do with a small sum of money coming my way around that time rather than any sentimentality

yes I know re kids repeating pattern; eldest dc who despises him is nonetheless becoming so very like him in his bad points; this is hugely significant in my deciding to leave

Hi just checkin in; Had no hassle last night . He didnt try to come home and I eventually managed to get some sleep at @4.30. Just trying to get the dcs lifts into school. Excuse my bad language in OP , very cathartic to get angry for once, generally I'm not allowed to get angry without him gettin angrier .

Hi trapped - glad you didn't have any rubbish to deal with.

Be strong and tell him this was utterly out of order

glad he ddin't come home. contact womens aid today and see if there is any advice they can give you for now.

morning, OP (am not going to call you by that name)

I hope this is the straw that breaks the camel's back for you, and you get rid of him permanently

just want to say so sorry to hear you are stuck with this pratt, i hope you can find a way out soon.

Quick hello from me, too, TF. When he comes over all gorgeous & gooey-eyed, re-read your thread! You sound like a feisty, competent, warm-hearted woman who DEFINITELY deserves better than second-best to the whisky and the spliff. Plus, your kids deserve better than to grow up thinking that's all it's about.

I heard what you said about Xmas money - but get him out of your face until then, if you have to. Good luck!

what happened? are you ok?

Just a quick note from my cousins pc to say that I am okay and will check in and update ye all later today...
My stupid mutt chewed my lap top charger so havnt been online

ugh spelling

Ok so still off line at home for a while so checking in whilst babysitting for a pal.
I an so utterly at the end of my tether, there have been no major incidents since my last post, just a continual grind of selfishness and lack of consideration from himself. Every thing is just getting me down, I need to get out of here :(
I am genuinely scared by the amount of cannabis he is smoking, he is up all night watching shite on the telly, leaving me to struggle on all day, alone. Even on Friday, the car broke down and he wouldnt even help me push it up into the drive, just lay in bed shouting about having no sleep. If I could just get a few quid together and go..
Sometimes I think that it is only a few more weeks til I get a few bob and other times I dont know how I'll manage thru xmas.