Mad stepmothers?

[pottonista]

I've looked about but can't find a dedicated thread for mad stepmothers like there is a 'classic MIL quotes' thread.

My mad stepmother starter for 10: Married my dad without inviting ANY of Dad's children to the wedding (though her family were invited), then threw a massive screaming swearing door-slamming tantrum at me on Christmas day because I hadn't asked to see the photos. To this day she insists I was horrible to her when I finally lost my temper, but has no recollection of calling me a 'horrible fucking bitch'. Niice.

Anyone else have a mad stepmother?

Oh my goodness!! put down your baggage stepmums, I dont see why this topic should be off limits. People should be free to vent about their step parents if they want to. BTW there are plenty of threads about various loonyy BM's too

I have seen plenty of threads where people rant about fathers,brothers,sisters,mothers,husbands etc.

What is the difference with venting about about a toxic step parent?

Can I join? I don't think my stepmother is crazy, just a spiteful selfish nasty bitch!

She used to be really lovely and always went out of her way to make db and me welcome in her house but 3 years ago she inherited a lot of money and it completely changed her. She completely blanks me now, theres been no argument or reason that I can see for her behaviour at all. My father has always been useless at remembering birthdays and staying in touch and she always used to remind him to call us but since she got the money she doesn't even pass on messages to him. Its so sad because since she started being like this my dad has become a grandfather and hes not called me at all . Obviously I realise that its not all down to her but when I invited him to my ds's first birthday (hes only met him once) he said he couldn't come because she wouldn't like it. He didn't even send a card. I know thats his choice but shes a mother herself so she must know how upsetting it is to have your child's existence not even acknowledged. In the past she would have told him to get in touch but since she decided she had an issue with me and my db neither of us ever hear from him and my poor ds who is completely innocent doesn't know his granddad

I am a mad stepmother.
I have a mad step daughter and 2 saneish stepsons.
I love my stepsons and their wives and their children.
My dsd told me I was using chemotherapy 'to get out of doing stuff in the house'I was bald,grey and terrified.she hasnt spoken to me or to her father for over 3 years.
If she is on here will she tell me why please.

Ouch, pranma! Poor you.

Have mentalist stepmother also, but heat has mostly gone out of it since left home. Best moment: she sat me and my sister down and started major rant about our behaviour (we must have been about 16). Gems included "the way you look at each other when I say things" and "the fact you leave the lid off the toothpaste". At this point we lost it and started giggling, which caused her to lose it in a different way and scream at us to go to our rooms. Dad came up later to check on us and said "she thinks you love your mum more than her". Pointed out to him that we did, in fact, love our mum more than her, as she was our mum. He started giggling too...honestly, in hindsight, it was probably really hard living with the three of us (including Dad in that)! He wasn't very good at backing her up, because we could usually make him laugh and then he forgot why he was supposed to be angry.

tooimmature2bmum that post made me giggle. I'm sorry but seriously if all all your stepmum had to say was those things to you she really had nothing to worry about. how clueless was she. Me and my brother and sister still look at each other when my mum says stuff and it has nothing to do with stepkid stuff. it's just kids stuff. clearly she was mad LOL. bloody hell of course you should love your mum more than anyone else.... apart from your dad that is. I would never ever expect my step daughter to love me more than her mum and it would be very sad if she did (however, this is not improbable as her mother isn't very nice to her) plus my DSD has got to fight me for leaving the cap off the toothpaste and making a mess LOL

My step mother is nicer than my own mother, shame she is married to a twat ie my father so we don't see her. Am waiting for him to pop his cloggs so we can see her again.

I have a difficult step-mother-in-law. It's sort of horrible to sit and watch from the sidelines over the way she, and f-i-l, treat dh. But dh has made it very clear he wishes no comment on it all from me. Thing is, it's not just him, but our dc, too. And occasionally me.

I'm in at some of these stories! I don't have a stepmum, but I am a stepmum myself. MY DSD is 18 and I've been with DH since she was 2.5. She moved in with us when she was 9. She's honestly a right royal PITA she never picks up after herself, winds the dds up something rotten, drinks too much, makes too much noise, is never ever wrong (what teenager is), usually stays out all night, spends her money on crap (booze), talks ten to the dozen, .

But I love the bones of her. I treat her like I would my own dds (well I hope I do anyway). I worry about her ALL the time - like now she went out last night texted DH this morning to say she was alive. But hasn't come home again tonight, I know she's probably okay, but she hasn't replied to any of our texts and I worry. We argue, we talk, we hug, we moan, we love each other. I hope I treat her as fairly as I will my own dds when they are teenagers, I couldn't imagine not having her in my life.

I'm so that some of you had such horrible stepmothers.

My DH has a crazy stepmother. She has done various things to my DH and his siblings over the years. I want more than anything for my FIL (who is lovely) to stand up to her and stick up for his kids. Her role in the family has completely changed their relationships. It makes me sad.