Churning with stupid anger

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not sure where to post this. Anyway 'chat' did not seem right, so here I am.

This started with DH being moody and odd for a week or so. We both work FT and looking after 2 children takes it's toll. We are often tired as you can imagine.

Anyhow, to most this will be nowt, but I got up this morning - with DH in another tired of everything mood - and turned on the telly for DS to watch cbeebies before school and twas freeview porn that greeted me. We were both a bit .

It's not the porn that got me at all. I don't have a problem with that per se.

Just that he is in such a different place to me at the moment.

He does this with varying frequency. We have been together for 23 years, but every now and then he has a massive wobble and says stuff like - we should never have had children and why are we together because we are like brother and sister etc.

I know he loves me and always has as I do him, but fuck it's hard.

Please don't judge me. He is a fab husband and father, but these wobbles freak me out everytime.

Do I get on with it or what? I know the answer is yes BTW we have 2 beautiful boys and could not be parted as a family, but shit, I have nearly had enough.

BTW I have just thrown his phone on the floor in anger and now it doesn't work Perhaps I just knocked it off by accident.

sounds like he is indulging in some self pity. On the other hand most people embroiled in the daily grind of house, work and kids probably feel like this from time to time, especially if they think they are not getting enough sex (which, with 2 kids and 2 FT jobs you probably aren't).

You could tell him not to leave the porn channel on when he's err done so that doesn't happen again.

But if is not happy you should say to him "ok, so what do we do to make thing better?"
You need to make time for each other, be it a weekend away or date nights or whatever. It's so damn easy to lose sight of your romantic and emotional connection.

Thanks msboogie we have had a good and very productive talk tonight. I don't think he will ever leave the porn channel on again.

Really, thanks for your input, it's much appreciated.

We have now agreed to have a night a month off with a babysitter for our DS'S.

Jesus, this marriage with kids shit is hard