Is your DH/DP more of a Woman's man or a Man's man?

[Irishchic]

I felt it appropriate to pose the question following on from the woman's woman/man's woman thread.

My dh is definitely a Man's man, though I would prefer it a bit if he was a bit more in touch with his feminine side. I think the fact that he never had any sisters and grew up with a fairly strict patriarchal type father is largely to blame for this.

A man's man: definitely. Mind you, he says I'm not a proper woman either... :o

He is a woman's man the cunt. I do wish he was a man's man; like Tony from The Sopranos.

Just wrote a really long post, the gist of which was that he defies catagorisation. That's probably what I like about him.

Woman's man but this means he dotes on women but right now, the only woman is me.

I've been with a man's man and I'd rather have a man who knows/loves women any day!

I'd say mines both - a mans man when it comes to sport and drinking and a womans man when it comes to being charming and flirty. The latter pulled me in all those years ago!

My dh sometimes describes himself as being a lesbian in a mans body. However I think it's an Eddie Izzard quote

He does have quite a few more traditionally 'feminine' qualities. As I have a fair few 'masculine' traits we are quite well (in a complementary sense) matched.

But I think that a lot of bollocks is talked about when it comes to femininity/masculinity.

A woman's man. But not in a flirty way, just more comfortable around woman. He has 3 matriarchal sisters & my MIL was in charge I think. Now dh has me & 2 daughters & doesn't appear to hanker after boys toys (he has developed an unhealthy interest in sylvanian families...)

That is a good question

Will have to get bck to you on that

I'd say mine's 50/50 (or possibly 60/40 on the woman side).
He was in the military for 12 years and in an almost exclusively male part of it but he was never really "one of the boys" in the sense that he always put me, then me and DD, first - I would never have settled for anything less.

He really likes and respects women, he knows how to talk to them and can have conversations about periods and childbirth as easily as talking about cars and guns - he's a real "bloke" in respect of his love of gadgets and toys and cars though. He hates football but loves motorsport.

He's ace, basically.

I've changed my mind about my DH - I think he's both/neither or just maybe his own man. He will happily talk about sport, drink and flirt/be charming with a man or a woman. I did accuse him of flirting with the vicar that married us during our pre-wedding sessions, the male, gay vicar! He just thought he was being fun!

nooka I'm usually descrbied as a gay man in a woman's boy...not sure how to take that one!

I don't know about DH either. He plays computer games and watches rugby and drinks real ale, but he can talk for england about homebirthing and breast feeding ( seeing as he didn't have to actually do any of it!) and will also happily go shoe shopping with me and occasionally watch sex and the city for mindless viewing

My DH is definitely a womans man. Really popular with his female colleagues. Hes funny and sensitive and I guess women don't feel threatened by him. He's into football etc but he's not one of those macho types, if he were I don't think I'd like him let alone love him!

defo a woman's man

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WarriorQueen, SurreyAmazon,

Do you really mean that?

I object to the classification, as I do to the supposed dichotomy between 'man's woman and 'woman's woman'.

I'm a woman's man. Very very very much so!

But Trillian whether you like it or not, it is the case that certain men just "get" woman and are comfortable around them and talking with them in a way that other guys, (like my dh) are not. My dh could never, EVER discuss periods or childbirht with any woman, could hardly even discuss that sort of stuff with me, and at a gathering will always gravitate to the huddle of men who are talking about golf, football whatever. Whereas some other guys will happily sit and talk to the woman all night about all manner of stuff, its not a "supposed dichotomy" it is quite real, even if it is not your experience.

Yes but some guys are comfortable with both men and women. My dh is uninhibited talking about really quite personal things with women (or men for that matter), but also likes hanging out with the guys, playing computer games, watching football and bantering in a typically male way. Oh, and used to work in an almost exclusively gay environment and was relaxed about that too (I got to find out all about bears and barebacking amongst other weird and wonderful things). I'm fairly similar myself. It's not necessarily one or the other, and in any case it may be more about inhibition than instinct.

I really do mean that RitaLynn.

rita
yes i did in as much that he had so many female friends and never knew his boundaries, made me feel uncomfortable with the levels he took his female friendships to.

he was too flirty
he would say things that he knew women wanted to hear

BUT

he did not like strong women or feminists, he would openly say so. he preferred the hair flickers, who would just submit to his wishes

he could never have spoken about periods/childbirth but he could make any woman feel like the only one in the room if he wanted to.

(by the way he is my xh now)

why do you ask rita?

basically he was a charmer, he never went in for the whole macho thing.

He's a woman's man.
Gossip,bitchy and nosey but he has grown up mainly around woman so can't really blame him, he's great for having a bitch with tho.

Mine has loads of female friends and loads of male friends. His male friends are not sporty footballer types but do like computer gaming. His female friends are all very girlie and into beauty and treatments - also all very bright and well educated. I don't really know what that makes him but he cries at Desperate housewives sometimes.

I am a bit confused about the multiple references to "computer gaming" as being a manly or macho thing to do

it's for kids not men

WarriorQueen, ok didn't realise he was your XH, just seemed a nasty thing to say (without knowing the backstory)

The same goes for SurreyAmazon, don't know if he's an ex, but you married him.