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Need help to prove an affair

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chocolatefinger · 01/11/2010 10:05

Hi
Usual story here- regular name changer. Really dont want to be outed. I promise Im a regular contributer to a regular thread.

My H is having online liaisons/ affairs at the very least.

I became aware of a situation in July by chance, confronted him and he denied it, eventually he confessed (evidence was very clear). He woudlnt talk about it after that. Said he deleted the relationships and wouldnt do it again etc. Said he never saw anyone online.

He's always been quite guarded with his phone, email etc but in last few days its really stepped up. I've seen texts on his screen that he's been quick to hide from me. Phone is glued to him except when charging over night.

He is clearly a lying arse- that much I know but I cant confront with almost no evidence and my "hunch". I need some facts.This mornig I found him on another website called Wfor online flirting etc. He has been online recently and a member since our daughter was 6wks old. Sad

Obvious routes-
phone- has pin lock, always at his side
email- not tried this as I know he changes his password regularly
laptop- has password- no chance of accessing.

Any other suggestions to help me prove this?

We have a small child and I'd like to leave and take her with me but he wont let me do that so really not sure what to do. I'd be better off financially without him once we sell house but short term would be tight if I rented somewhere.

Sorry head is all over the place.
Feeling sick Sad

OP posts:
chocolatefinger · 02/11/2010 19:49

Hi Smartie
thanks for your post- you are really right to ask those questions.

I am quite hoping I can have the conversation with him and he will tell me everything but I am not really convinced that will happen.

I thought I was so together about this, almost looking forward to moving onto a new life but I am now terrified of what might be.

I cant think about it or I just lose it.

Thanks again.

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