Help! I have been divorced for the last 15years of which my last casual relationship was some 10 years ago. My DD is now at university and it is now time for me to ?have some fun & enjoy myself?. Having concentrated all my efforts into building up my career in a very male dominated industry I have tended to ignore/not see any potential suitors and probably come across as being quite aloof/distant.
Now, my question is how do I know if a someone is interested in me? There is a man who I have worked with in a project team, (but not same company), on and off for 5 years. Over that time he used to phone me at work maybe once/twice a week after hours on the pretext of asking me to email information and then keep me talking for 30mins or so about nothing in particular. He was married then (no kids) but has been divorced for just over a year now.
We have not worked together on a project for about 18 months but our companies have an ongoing relationship. His company has moved to new premises which I visited some 3 months ago and before I left he said next time you visit we will go out for drink. I spoke to him a month ago and he said the same thing again about going out for a drink.
Well, last week I emailed him and asked if he was available for that drink and he responded ?yes" & suggested a date which was fine by me but then added ?Do you mind if I invite (secretary).
What is that all about!!!! Have I got the wrong end of the stick ? feeling very confused/stupid. Any thoughts, anyone??
(BTW I don?t have a problem with the secretary I know her quite well).