How often do you normally text/call at the start of a relationship that feels serious?

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I've been on only five dates with this guy I really like. We've been physical up until the point of intercourse. He left on Friday for a 9 day business trip that he invited me to accompany him on. He seemed very serious about that invitation, even going so far as to discuss the logistics of what I'd do during the day when he was at work, but I could not take him up on it due to a lot of different reasons. He and I both said we'd call, but we haven't yet. I texted him yesterday wishing him a safe landing and pleasant dreams. He texted me back saying he got in safe, misses me and wants to "talk soon".

He is spending today and tomorrow not at work but with his brother who lives in the same city he has to be in. I haven't heard from him and am reluctant to send another text as I sent the initial one last night. But is it my turn again? I certainly don't want to call and interrupt family time. Should I initiate a text or wait? I am so not good at this whole dating thing.

And, yes, I know I am way over-analyzing this! It's how my mind works, but any insight would be greatly appreciated.

Well back in the stone age when I met dh, we didn't have these here modern mobile phone whatsits. And we lived with our parents, so they decided phone usage. Aah life was simpler.

If you want to text him, text him. Remind him of the clock change if he's not abroad.

Beginnings of relationships are lovely.

Hm, I haven't texted him yet. I think I'll just leave today and maybe send one tomorrow if I don't hear from him.

It's funny that you like the starts of relationships-- I HATE them! I hate the not knowing. It really bugs me.

He's probably busy with his brother and family stuff. I don't think it's too strange he hasn't texted back, given that you know he's arrived safely.

"Well back in the stone age when I met dh, we didn't have these here modern mobile phone whatsits. And we lived with our parents, so they decided phone usage. Aah life was simpler."

Me too.

Thank you guys! I did text him and he texted me right back. I feel a billllllllllllllion times better. I hate being this analytical about everything. Thanks for the input! :)

Good: glad everything's ok!

I think I like the start of relationships because it only ever happened to me once and it was brilliant. I was young too (teenager) so didn't have the maturity to worry about it. It just happened. And a billion years later, we're still just as happy. Perhaps I wouldn't like starting again now.

When I first met my dh not a day went by that we didn't see or speak to each other. We didn't bother about whose turn it was. We just both knew that we really really liked each other and that this one was serious.

Normally I hated the start of relationships because it all seemed to be so much game playing and the power struggle, but this one was so different - it was fantastic.