Pregnant Sex - advice wanted.....

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Right, DC2 is on the way (about 17-18wks). DC1 was a problem pregnancy and so sex wasn't an option for us, meaning we don't really have any experience with this. DW is still a bit anxious about it but we both want to crack on, so to speak. There are two difficulties, one is pretty normal the other one makes me feel a bit guilty.

1 - Positions. What is most comfortable/enjoyable (obviously it depends on the person, but I figure there must be a bit of consistency). At the moment, everything we try seems to feel "wierd" inside DW or makes us both very conscious of crushing the bump.

2 - Erm... Is it terrible for me not to find DW as attractive as normal? She looks great fully clothed but I'm getting slightly put off at times when she's got nothing on. Would it be terrible to bypass the bit where her top comes off before sex? We did talk about it during last pregnancy, but obviously it wasn't so much of an issue then. She knows that I find her really attractive at all other times and is pretty secure about that. Is it worth talking about or should I/we just get on with it?

Cheers for that PaigeTurner, I'd figured that our eyesight should be going by then so we'll be spared the sight of each other but still have all the fun....

Oh, I don't know. You are aware of the Towel Theory, aren't you?

I think that you are right that most men probably feel the same way about pregnant women but are just not honest enough to say so, I don't think you need to feel bad about that at all! Obviously if you are still wanting to have sex with each other then it's not much of an issue anyway, it's only temporary and I think the most important thing is to find something that works for you. Personally I was still enjoying having sex right up until son 1 and son 2 were born, you just have to be a bit more creative! Man on top starts to become uncomfortable once bump starts to show and is pretty much out of the question by the last few months but woman on top is pretty good as she can be in control, spoons (front to back on sides) is also good as its pretty lazy and doesn't involve too much effort from either party and is really good for her if she is very tired and also gives you free hands to 'explore'. 'Doggy' is also good for this reason and she can always prop herself up with pillows to make it more comfortable. At the end of the day all you can do is experiment with what feels best for both of you, and don't worry about it too much :D Besides, apparently semen is really good for getting a woman ready for labour when the time comes, something to do with the chemicals, always a good excuse!

I don't think you should feel bad about not particularly finding your wife attractive during pregnancy. My DH claims to find me attractive but I don't believe it for a minute! He does make an effort though, bless him, and I do appreciate that.

A good position if you like something a bit more vigorous is for you to go on top (just for sec, to get in position) and she wraps her legs around you. You then fall together to one side so her legs are wrapped around you and you are face to face on your sides. There's a natural gap between you for the bump and you can be pretty vigorous if you like. It's also a great position for her. It sounds like DW's leg would be squashed but it won't be (at least I don't find that it is). Might take a little bit of practice. Also you don't have to look at her boobs but you can see her face and kiss her. I know lots of people don't like doggy or spoons due to the lack of face to face contact.

Unfortunately for me pregnancy has upped my already very high sex drive but orgasms bring on terrible painful braxton hicks so after last weekend of being practically doubled over in pain I've decided it's curtains for sex until baby arrives. I don't know how on earth I'll last :(