Sex or love?

[phipps]

Amazing sex but not real long lasting love or
good sex, if not as often as liked but proper stick-by-you-through-everything-love?

Love for me

love

love definitely - I struggle to understand why dh and I still have good sex (the rare occasions that we do) even though we spend the rest of the time hardly liking let alone loving each other - so yes - LOVE - where you could talk about a lot of things to each other without feeling judged, where you felt liked 99% of the time and where you just really enjoyed each other's company...

Love

I've had plenty of sex without love in my time and it's not a patch on lurrrve

don't make me choooose !

you can't make me ! [hangry]

Love (I'm sure I could work on the the sex)

agree with Thingumy, sex can be improved, go with love any day.

I chose love too though to have a day without being married I would take the sex .

I am going home today and can not wait to see my dh.

I've got both.

at Mal.

I want both and am just starting to look .

I choose love too but if I was single,that will defo be sex and plenty of it !

I would say it depends on how you feel about the person who loves you. Not thinking of your particular situation, but mine...I couldn't be with the one who loves me if I don't love him, and the sex is just automatically good if you are really in love with someone.

So if you love a person and they only fancy you, it's still going to be nice having sex with them. But if they love you and you don't fancy them, or love them, it won't be any good.

Love has to be present for the sex to be what I'd call good.

Love - with sex being the lovely place the two of you go together.

I don't think sex with a DP that doesn't love you is to be recommended.

Are we just talking about love and a relationship or bonking with no relationship - or both? Confused now. On second thoughts, love.

Both please

I had both now it's just sex without love... Not the same :(

LOVE LOVE LOVE

I want it.

I don't think that being "in love" makes sex good automatically - but then I also think you can have fantastic sex without either of you having an orgasm . Great sex doesn't have to be about orgasms every time, being orgasm driven can make you lose focus on the real pleasure of sex.

I read this piece of advice once and think it holds true - for every 10 sessions of sex, 2 will be mind blowingly amazing , 6 will be good and 2 will make you wonder why you bothered.

Has to be both for me or I wont go there

I refuse to compromise on either

George Sand sums it up for me.

"There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved".

"Life in common among people who love each other is the ideal of happiness."

Love is what matters most.

Love

I don't think I really enjoyed sex much before DP and I've never really been in love before - I think there's a correlation.

I am totally in love with my husband and I know he loves me. I also really love having sex with him can't believe I am telling you this.-- but wonder if I am getting mixed up about things.

love - then your love and care for each other can develop your sex life into something wonderful

Both for me too [hgrin]