me and my dp are too knackered to have sex

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as we both cant be arse!! its cos of money probs but how to get back on track?? as i find it awkward to find the moment!.

Its mainly me finding excuses cos all i want to do is sleep which its true and we arent sleeping in the same bed till we get a new mattress which it isnt helping as im sleeping on his side of bed that isnt flattened and it isnt a good mattress now (it flattened abit when i was heavily pregnant).

its a struggle to find money for a new mattress!!

But once we make love, its nice.

im trying to snap out of it

well,i guess sex doesnt have to be confined to a bed!!

So it's 1) money problems 2) not sharing a bed and 3) being tired. I'd suggest 1) sex is free, try having an evening where you put troubles to bed and agree no discussing/worrying about them, and see if you can focus on each other, rather than worries, 2) doing it in the living room and 3) doing it earlier in the evening before bedtime. Not suggesting every night, but maybe one 'date night' a week?

Also, does it HAVE to be "full on intercourse"?

My DH and I have a lot of lazy sex - our genital organs rarely even touch, so you couldn't even describe it as bumping uglies really!!

However, when push comes to shove (no pun intended), an orgasm is still an orgasm and it can be a good way of making the start of a week being a bit more sexy, with the minimum of effort, and I find that by the time we get to Thurs or Fri, I am much more interested in something a bit more, erm, active!!!

lunchtime quickies

don't wait for the evening when you're too tired!

lazy morning shags are better than late night knackered ones imo.

I sometimes book the afternoon off work, and spend it with DP. It always feels extra naughty actually being paid to spend all afternoon in bed

yes i know that sex doesnt have to be confined to a bed...but im generally so knackered i cant be bothered lifting a finger (on him)!

When we were in bed together we had quickies first thing in the morning but now its a little difficult with me upstairs and him downstairs and our kids in between (age 6 and 2) ....

Since dd2 was born, ive only had about 3 foreplays before the big jump! i used to have the foreplays 9/10 but so caannttt bee arrrsseee....

Wish i could have lunchtime quickies but dp is out all day..self employed pole window cleaner.

but last night we had a lovely cuddle before i went to bed. He understands that im not in the mood.... me not sleeping well as stress.