I'm a little bit lonely.....

[NathanJones]

Hi there - I?m working away from home and my DW is always too busy to talk to me, her e-mails are short and businesslike. Phone calls are a couple of times a week and at set times - she gets really cross if I call outside these times (she always has needed to be the one in the driving seat). We don?t have children.

I?ve tried talking to her about this several times but frankly it?s like banging my head against a wall and I?d rather not cause the friction as we get on well under difficult circumstances. While I?m away I don?t have anyone to talk to about personal stuff and frankly I?m a bit lonely and starved of affection. Anyone in a similar situation and care to be cyber-friends? (I?ve never had a private message on here but I?m assuming it?s the ?contact? option on the right?)

Before everyone puts the boot in - I?ve thought about what I?m doing and just want a nice warm lonely lady to share with.

whats up with your wife? why wont she talk to you??

Have you read any of the threads about emotional affairs? It sounds as though that's what you're in danger of starting.

This is not boredrandyhousewives.com

If you want another relationship and have no children yet, I suggest you tell your wife you want to separate.

Hi SprinkleDust - she has a very busy job and I just don't think I fit into the right box if you see what i mean? The DH box is quite small when i'm at work and not at home. I think she like to have evrything timetabled.

naff off to a dating website

"I?ve thought about what I?m doing and just want a nice warm lonely lady to share with."

Ummm... you just want to use someone to offload onto. Thats nice and selfish.

Why don't you put your hand in your pocket and pay a therapist? Or go and bother a priest?

Yes, if you don't have children yet and your dw is not meeting some of your "basic" requirements in that they are very important to YOU, then separating might be the outcome and relatively easy - or suggest counselling and if she is totally uninterested you will have your answer and know what you must do.

You are looking for cyber friends. So what you mean is you thought you'd come to mumsnet and made the mistake of thinking they are all gullible bored housewives.

Emotional affair at best, at worst nudes, web cam and sex meets is this the kind of thing you are looking for

Oh holy God.

Just split up. You've no children.

Next.

That's helped - thanks people.

The whole point is that I don't want "a dating website"...

But what is the bloody point in any single woman getting involved with you? You are married, ffs!

Just break up with her - it sounds as though she has a separate life on her own - what's all that about not wanting you to phone unless it's prearranged? You're married to her and she says that to you?

Ooo thats the first jammie dodger ever from me...

Get yourself onto facebook then, or join in with some of the threads on here that potentially could do with a blokes perspective and have a laugh, you might ( if you play nicely) actually make some real online friends.

Your way isn't how MN works :)

Thank you KAQOTDamned. That's helpful.