Help, need some advice please

[SMummyS]

Hi I'm a bit embarrassed to admit this but its the first step to sorting it our. My DP and I have been together for nearly 3 years, our sex life for first 12-18months was good but we had a lot of problems last year with his ex withholding contact to his daughter and it was a stressful 9 months and to be honest it's still stressful now.

Since the issues with contact started our sex life has been pretty crap, couple of times a month if we're lucky. I want to do it more but I have absolutely no sex drive. I am on the pill but have been for years so I don't think it's that.

I've tried most things to get me in the mood but it's just not happening and now I'm putting pressure in myself its getting worse.

I can't even stand to be touched or kissed. Our relationship is good but I feel this will split us up.

I've read about natural vitamin libido boosters. Has anyone seen them before or tried them?? Or even got and suggestions that may help. It's really getting me down now :-(

Did he leave his ex for you? Why was his ex being difficult about contact with their child?
I think you need to give some more information about other things that have happened/are happening in your relationship for posters to help you properly.

Interesting that you are more worried about your lack of sex drive splitting you up than you are about your own sexual needs. I wonder why that is?

Thankyou for your reply.

Him and his ex split up about 2 years before we got together. She caused problems cos she got married and decided their daughter only needed one dad and that was her new husband. We didn't see his daughter for 9 months as we had to take her to court to get access to her.

Think I'm just worried we're drifting apart, which is why I worry we'll split up. If it was purely the sex life bit I could maybe see light at the end of the tunnel but now I hate being touched, not just him but I don't even give his daughter or my mum hugs.