Help! Should I confront him?!

[lilystyles]

My husband and I have 2 children and I am 8 months pregnant with number 3. Last month he started a part time course at uni, last week he swapped one part of his course for another. This morning he left his phone in the bedroom and I flicked through it, there was a text send on Saturday to a girl saying 'Yo Carly, I managed to swap courses, took some time and effort but I am now on it'. He has never mentioned her and I can't think why she would be interested to know what course he was on?! I want to know who she is but can't confront him without him knowing I was looking at his messages, am I being hormonal or should I ask him?!?!

Sounds totally innocent to me

P.S. we haven't had sex since I got pregnant so it does worry me!

that doesn't sound at all incriminating to me, unless there is lots more to this that you are aware/suspicious of

btw, we didn't have sex through all my pregnancies (4) and for about 3 months afterwards

a decent bloke should not make you feel worried about that

Why would you flick through his messages? It's not really something you do unless you have reason to believe he's up to something.

I think you should ask him, only because it's now going to eat away at you, you'll get more paranoid as time goes on, checking his phone for more texts to/from her etc. I don't know how you could innocently explain reading his messages other than to be honest with yourself and him as to why you did it.

The text itself sounds innocent. People do make friends at college/uni, it's part of the package, and they're often the opposite sex. It doesn't mean they're going to run off to loo's for a quick shag between lectures.

didn't you do that then, squitten ? [hwink]

Not having sex during pregnancy is not a reason to be paranoid that your husband is off shagging someone else surely?

I think we had sex about 3 times the entire time I was pregnant with DS, and then it was months afterwards before we did it again. DH didn't make me feel worried or uncomfortable about it at all.

Your DH is bound to make friends on his course - would you want him to just go there and back and speak to no-one?

oops, I meant SheWillBeLoved

SF - easy mistake I suppose, they do sound similar

And of course I didn't! Unused classrooms were much more hygienic I found

[hgrin] @ SWBL

OP, if you are still there, is there more to this, or not ?

Because it does seem ok to me, and others on this thread

I would have gone right off him for texting the word yo but thats just me.

I would't ask him, i would snoop for a bit longer, might be nothing, just him trying to get down and cool

And failing.

perfumedlife - I was just coming back to this to say that the word 'Yo' is not exactly a precursor to lustful thoughts!

my DH only has to say "Yo!" and I am weak at the knees and gagging for it

honestly, guv

It is a rather naff blokey was of greeting somebody. Not something I'd expect a potential notch on the ol bedpost to say to me at all. So even if he is trying his luck, chance are after that text, she's now in the process of swapping to the part of the course he has just come from [hgrin]

So erotic ladeez

DH and I rarely had sex when I was pregnant - didn't want to and it didn't worry me - I don't think it is unusual.

Sounds like he may have become friendly with Carly previously and may have expressed an interest in changing module - but sounds no more than that