My SIL has real issues and needs psychological intervention and I have been one of the many people on the receiving end of her nastiness ... for 18 years.
Today she failed to turn up to a small family birthday party after a row, causing a very atmosphere (she and my brother had rowed in the car and the children were really sad and sullen). I normally keep a lid on it, but I'm a bit hormonal (day two of a miscarriage) and really let her know what I thought of her. I feel bad though that all the children were present and feel I should have kept my mouth zipped for another 20 minutes until it was over.
I was angry because she was one of the things that tipped me over into PND (sending vile texts and phone messages - presumably because I was slightly centre of attention). We have forgiven and forgiven and forgiven in the past but I had just had enough of her today.
Not sure why I am posting really - cross with myself because I stooped to her horrible level and it was a big birthday for one of the grandparents.