I'm fed up.
My DH and I have been together for ten years and mostly it's been ok.
We have two children (2 & 3) and also work together in our own business.
The problem is I feel so undervalued in the relationship.
I have never felt like I am his priority (or even the children)
I am sick of not being treated nicely, basically I think he is just mean to me. I am the one he takes his stress out on (nothing physical) but I just get the grumpy, irritable person.
I am sick of not having any real relationship - we see each other most days at work but in terms of any alone time - rarely. No affection. No good morning/good evening kisses.
He would go training or go out for coffee before he would think to do something with me.
He works early - late - six days a week. Sundays - long runs and coffee with friends and maybe a few hours in the afternoon with the boys. I then often come into work to do paperwork, never to go for a run or coffee with friends like him!
I work two jobs, so just as long hours, so it's not like I am bored at home. I do get to see my friends but often with children in tow - I am not complaining about that side of my life. Love my kids, love my work, love my friends.
Just don't love my partner or the relationship we have.
Today feels like the last straw and it's over a pathetic tub of yoghurt!
I'll explain....we had two really yummy tubs of yoghurt leftover from a friend staying with us, M&S ones with the fruit flavour on the side. One a flavour I didn't like. Earlier that day I had said you can have the Cherry one as I didn't like it and he said he was going to take it out with him. He had meetings to go to. Anyway I'm still at work now, it will be a 13 hour day today, he comes back to do a few hours tonight, he is grumpy (me admittedly a little tired too). I didn't realise but he went to the fridge and took my yoghurt. He has to walk past me and i didn't even notice.
I realised when he came back and put it into the bin. I asked him why he had mine as that was very rude. He said he didn't think it was rude. He said that seeing as he has been out working all day, hadn't eaten anything and that there was nothing else in the fridge that he should have it. Without any consideration that it was mine and he clearly knew it.
He really could have just asked and I would have said yes or would have pointed out the other food that I had elswhere.
NO just thought it was his given right to have it - again no consideration for me. Didn't take into account that i had been working all day without a break (he had two hours free between meetings which he spent shopping and having a coffee)
I am so furious and fed up. It's more than just the yoghurt it's the continuios thinking that everything evolves around him.
I really feel that we are on a downhill slide and I've had enough, I would be better off without him!
When I do talk to him about this it doesn't make any difference and his personality is that he is never at fault and he turns it around to be mine. So we could have the conversation daily and it wouldn't get anywhere.
Sorry rant over (for now!)