Battling with myself re: having another baby. Share your 2pennys worth

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I've started a thread like this previously but it was in chat which I had some great feedback on and now appears to have disappeared and I want to be able to come back to. Basically we have 3 happy healthy DD's who are our world. We are contemplating number 4.

I currently work fulltime but we are looking to change this so I can be at home and DH work fulltime instead.

Part of me is absolutely desperate for another baby, I just don't feel ready to say never again and the thought of never having another gives me a horrible empty feeling inside, kind of a feeling of it's now or never because in a years time or so the age gap will be a huge issue for me.... However, the other side of me thinks we are moving on nicely as a family, things are getting easier, we're able to give the girls more, go on holidays, weekends away blah blah blah.
DH feels the same as me - he would love another but has the same thoughts at me

So - what do you think ?

I think it's beyond anyone here to tell you whether you should have more children! There are pros and cons, as you have said, and it's about weighing them up and deciding what's best.

I think the only thing I would consider is whether that feeling of wanting more is going to be satisfied with just one more or whether it's something you'll experience anyway when you finally do decide to finish your family and so need to find other ways of dealing with

If ever there was a question you have to work out for yourselves, it's this.

I think issues like life balance and family impact are very important when it comes to family planning.

For example, considering whether or not bringing another child in the world would benefit the family as a whole? This is just my opinion but I would have to weigh my own desire to have another baby very carefully along with how much it would affect the lives of my existing children...and indeed my finances, relationship with my husband...all of these things.

It's never an easy decision and I do empathize with you. But from everything you've listed above, it sounds as though you have a lovely life anyway! Good luck.

I could have written you post myself!

I have 3 and am considering another - dh is quite happy to go along with whatever i want and i think would secretly like another.

Im a SAHM and we are ok financially

I have days where i think it would be wonderful and then the others start arguing and i think i may be crazy to even consider it!

So i have no answer but the same thoughts and feelings