I'm getting angry with EXp and i know i shouldn't

[booooooooooyhoo]

was sitting with a friend today who knew the general gist of what happened with EXp but today we got talking in lots of detail about exactly what happened from start to finish and what is still happening and i started to get really angry with him for things, i still am and i have been trying really hard to keep things nice with him but just now i feel like just telling him exactly how much of an arse he was. i wont because it will put things beyond a point where we can be civil but i really do feel like he should know. it stupid i know. no good will come of it but it's how i feel.

Don't do it! I'm assuming you still have to see each other because of DC?

Sit down, have a large drink and write a big long letter, as horrible as you like, telling him all the shitty things he did to you and what a bastard he is, don't leave anything out.

Then enjoy the feeling of having got it all out of your system, and rip the letter into tiny pieces and throw it out. It works, honestly [hsmile]

no, i definitely will nOT be telling him. it would make things unbearable for teh dcs and for me if I'm honest. i couldn't cope with how nasty i know he can get.

i am far from over him, i was doing ok but talking today felt liek a bit of a release and then it made me realise, actually yes he was a complete dick and up until now i had been harbouring some guilt for ending the relationship, mostly because he has made me feel that way, but today it just hit me that his behaviour was totally unjustified and totally unacceptable and i was right to end it.

i am trying to keep things polite, which involves alot of tongue biting. the problem is he is being very matey and although i have been ignoring most of that stuff he would be able to tell if i suddenly went cold shoulder and he would become a nightmare to deal with. i want him to stay in touch for the dcs and yes so that things don't get nasty. it's easier if we can get on. i feel like i am treading eggshells, trying not to say the wrong thing. i know if tehre are any rows he will use that as an excuse not to see the dcs and i CAN't take the blame for that. he will trip up in his own time but i am not taking the fall for it. so i am being as nice as pie.

am going to do the letter.

Another tip, after you've written the letter, burn it piece by piece. Will an extra dimension - you could always imagine it's him you're burning.

That way it won't be read by the neighbours when you put the bits out for recycling.

Sorry - should be 'will add an extra dimension'

thank you tb.