dh is such a lazy ar$e that I am thinking of kicking him out

[QueenEagle]

Inspired by another thread about lazy dh's.

Mine does nothing in the way of housework - no laundry, cooking, cleaning, ironing, gardening, decorating.

We have 5 kids. He will bathe the babies about 40% of the time. He sits on the computer all day on his days off.

He is a lazy sod in bed too - far too much trouble to make sure I am "seen to" - as long as he is alright that's the end of it - I get a "sorry babe" before he turns over and goes to sleep.

I've been a single parent on benefits before so i do know what it's like but I really am starting to wonder what the point of being married to dh is. It's like having an overgrown 6th child to deal with.

get him his own washing basket and leave him to do his own stuff - also i would nominate him a couple of kids to do the washing and ironing for too.

take fuse out of puter
leave him a letter telling him your pissed off and being very specific about whats going to happen - like you get to sort out the washing and irong for you three and i will sort out the rest. you will wash the dishes every night. and you will tidy the downstairs on your day off if not computer is going to hit the pavement at approx 90 mph.

start saving up some secret money - its not big its not clever and its not pc and its wrong but i would advise every woman who is largely financially dependant on her other half to do the same.

i save but its not sevret but its in my name and he contributes to it - cos we have the kind of relationship where i tell him if we get divorced becuase he is a wanker am going to right royally screw him - which he seems to think is fair.

@ custardo!!

I have got nearly £2,000 in savings and I have an endowment policy in my name only that will mature in less than 10 years time (left over from my previous marriage - thought it might be wise to keep it at the time!)

So, I'm not dependent on him completely financially. The house is still in my name only even though he has repeatedly asked me to add his name to the tenancy.

I am completely able to stand on my own 2 feet both financially and emotionally if I chose to.

And I haven't told him yet that I have planned to go out with the girlies on Friday night, but oh boy I am so looking forward to it.

Second custardo with divvying up of duties.

also, sit him down and ask him how he would deal with a colleague who, every day, failed to pull his weight, than at the end of the shift just said "Sorry Mate!" Listen carefully to his answer and implement his solution on him, immediatly and obviously.

excellent QE vez sinsible