Husband and I argue a lot about all sorts of things. He tries to be controlling about everything (amount and temperature of washing up water - grocery shopping - childrens diets - what I buy - what colour we'll paint the living room - who's getting what for xmas - etc. If you can think of it - he'll try to control it - even the way I make my own coffee!!!).
We do not communicate well on a day to day basis and there are lots of rows.
We have four children. H is the breadwinner - I'm a stay at home mum.
We do not have joint bank accounts - I get the childrens tax credits and child allowance though.
Recently I had a miscarriage (near the end of the first trimester - it was a missed miscarriage for which I had surgery). We rarely have sex anyway - we're only allowed sex when he initiates it. We don't kiss or hug. The pregnancy was a surprise - I've had fertility treatment in the past - I wanted to keep the baby - he was not so keen as me - but didn't want me to have an abortion either. Now that baby is gone anyway.
In previous pregnancies I've had unexplained bleeding so during this recent lost pregnancy - there was no sex.
He's been away on business and come back with porn magazines in his bag. I'm not thrilled about this - he's using the mags - but not initiating any sex with me.
The other think I find deeply disturbing/sickening is that most of the magazines are featuring women with completely shaven "lady parts" and one of them is titled "Barely Eighteen".
He used to use the computer for porn - I don't know what he was looking at on the web - he deletes the history - but anything I did see him looking at was adults stuff - but why has he chosen to buy a "barely eighteen" porn mag. It must be legal - but it makes me feel sick sick sick.
I have spoken to him about the magazines and why I find them upsetting but he has chosen to keep the magazines.
We are barely speaking.