I've just had an almighty row with my DP. I'm trying to understand it, cos it doesn't make much sense. Last night, I lost my rag with my dc's as I'd had a long day and they were making loads of noise. I asked them several times to stop playing on the computer and get their jamas on. this was after my tea had been rejected and the place was a tip. DP was sat glued to the tele while all this was going on. Anyway, I ended up losing my rag, shouting at the kids and DP. Suddenly this all became about DP. It turned into a row when I asked him to help me out with the discipline - it always turns into a row when I ask for help!! Anyway after I'd taken the DC's to school, I decided that i would "talk" to DP about his overreaction, "I'm alllowed d to lose my tempter once in a WHILE, it shouldn't always turn out to be about you".....anyway, long story short, this then became another row, to which old scenarios were blurted out, "you do this, you do that, your Mother does this etc".....then I recieved hurls of abuse, including "I've asked you to change but you are still the same". So I asked him to reveal the bits I should be changing, "well you're not consistent" was one, he was kind of stuck after this. Anyway, the argument escalated as I could feel my temper rising, why the bloody hell should I change, I don't feel like there's anything wrong with me. then came the insults, you "f***" do this, and that, "You keep talking over me, I can't shut you up", etc etc....then it came to the inevitable "well leave then" from him --which is where all our arguments lead to in the end. Problem is, i can't leave!!! I have no money, I have a part-time job, we're strapped for cash as it is,how could I afford to pay the rent on a house when I only earn 600 a month.....? I would love to leave as I hate being talked to like crap. Advice please anyone?